Revenge
New York Times 2004:
''The best way to understand revenge is not as some disease or moral failing or crime but as a deeply human and sometimes very functional behavior,'' said Dr. Michael McCullough, a psychologist at the University of Miami. ''Revenge can be a very good deterrent to bad behavior, and bring feelings of completeness and fulfillment.''
Retaliatory acts, anthropologists have long argued, help keep people in line where formal laws or enforcement do not exist. Before Clint Eastwood and Arnold Schwarzenegger, there was Alexander Hamilton, whose fatal duel with Aaron Burr was commemorated on the banks of the Hudson River. Recent research has shown that stable communities depend on people who have ''an intrinsic taste for punishing others who violate a community's norms,'' said Dr. Joseph Henrich, an anthropologist at Emory University in Atlanta.
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After reading so many situations on here and knowing my own story and my fathers story, I start to wonder what magic combination helps expedite recovery. With some of the more liberal or "evolved" views basically saying revenge is for Neanderthals and we should rise above that need. And some of the more tough guy approaches saying to "send a message" to the AP.
If you've read my story about my father (my fathers secret) you know that he got physical revenge on the OM, he seemed to heal somewhat but had a wife who was only a little sorry. I've read some scenarios on here where there was healing without any revenge of any kind.
But thats the healing part....but what about the part of discouraging men from preying on other men's wives?
Where is the negative repercussions?
Why not steal time with another mans wife if you can walk scott free?
I know if a woman wants to cheat she will, but many times it takes hours of talking and thousands of texts for a man to actually sleep with a married woman. That's a lot of work and a lot of time to contemplate the wrongness of it. Sure there's alway the wife out there that doesn't reveal that she's married and I guess I'm not talking about that.
And just to be fair, what about the husband who cheats, should there be some fear on his part that his male inlaws will "find him".
So many things are ok with society now that used to be something worth avoiding. So should there be a reason to not sleep with another mans wife outside the simple moral factor? At least some social stigma? There's simply not right now.
Thoughts...
New York Times 2004:
''The best way to understand revenge is not as some disease or moral failing or crime but as a deeply human and sometimes very functional behavior,'' said Dr. Michael McCullough, a psychologist at the University of Miami. ''Revenge can be a very good deterrent to bad behavior, and bring feelings of completeness and fulfillment.''
Retaliatory acts, anthropologists have long argued, help keep people in line where formal laws or enforcement do not exist. Before Clint Eastwood and Arnold Schwarzenegger, there was Alexander Hamilton, whose fatal duel with Aaron Burr was commemorated on the banks of the Hudson River. Recent research has shown that stable communities depend on people who have ''an intrinsic taste for punishing others who violate a community's norms,'' said Dr. Joseph Henrich, an anthropologist at Emory University in Atlanta.
.....End quoted article...
After reading so many situations on here and knowing my own story and my fathers story, I start to wonder what magic combination helps expedite recovery. With some of the more liberal or "evolved" views basically saying revenge is for Neanderthals and we should rise above that need. And some of the more tough guy approaches saying to "send a message" to the AP.
If you've read my story about my father (my fathers secret) you know that he got physical revenge on the OM, he seemed to heal somewhat but had a wife who was only a little sorry. I've read some scenarios on here where there was healing without any revenge of any kind.
But thats the healing part....but what about the part of discouraging men from preying on other men's wives?
Where is the negative repercussions?
Why not steal time with another mans wife if you can walk scott free?
I know if a woman wants to cheat she will, but many times it takes hours of talking and thousands of texts for a man to actually sleep with a married woman. That's a lot of work and a lot of time to contemplate the wrongness of it. Sure there's alway the wife out there that doesn't reveal that she's married and I guess I'm not talking about that.
And just to be fair, what about the husband who cheats, should there be some fear on his part that his male inlaws will "find him".
So many things are ok with society now that used to be something worth avoiding. So should there be a reason to not sleep with another mans wife outside the simple moral factor? At least some social stigma? There's simply not right now.
Thoughts...
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