FYI, I am a 45 yo woman. I've been married to my husband for 20 years, and we have 3 kids, 19, 17 and 12. The younger two still live at home.
This weekend, I took Friday and Monday off work. My reasons are:
1. Summer vacation is almost over, and I want to spend some time having fun with my daughters.
2. I want to organize the house and get things fixed up before school begins
3. I had dr appointment and middle school open house during the day on Friday
4. I am starting a demanding program (back to school for rn degree) on Thursday and just wanted to enjoy life a little before that began.
My husband is pissed off that I took those days off. He is very demanding that I work as much as I can, to the point that if I need to go to something for the kids he wants me to drive to work for a half-day and I work an hour from home. I always acquiesced to his demands in previous years, but this made me feel angry and resentful that I got so much flak for wanting time off work. I have probably not had an entire week off work in 3-4 years.
In previous years, my husband had a failing small business and we had big money problems. We spent an inheritance from my grandmother trying to keep his business going. He now has a decent job. I will be cutting my work hours back to about 20 when I go to the rn program. His opinion is that seeing as I am going to be making less I should have spent this whole summer working every hour I could to make more money. However, he has made absolutely no changes to his spending habits. In fact, he is out of town this weekend at a recreational event with friends, which is something he does every other weekend.
I understand that sometimes his views on things are self centered and unreasonable. I am working on being more independent, because I used to turn myself into a pretzel to please him and he was very hard to please and this was really hard on me. Our bills are paid, I have money saved for my program. We should be able to weather this period in our lives without debt. Am I wrong for taking these days off? I don't think so but I am now feeling bad/guilty. What do you think?
This weekend, I took Friday and Monday off work. My reasons are:
1. Summer vacation is almost over, and I want to spend some time having fun with my daughters.
2. I want to organize the house and get things fixed up before school begins
3. I had dr appointment and middle school open house during the day on Friday
4. I am starting a demanding program (back to school for rn degree) on Thursday and just wanted to enjoy life a little before that began.
My husband is pissed off that I took those days off. He is very demanding that I work as much as I can, to the point that if I need to go to something for the kids he wants me to drive to work for a half-day and I work an hour from home. I always acquiesced to his demands in previous years, but this made me feel angry and resentful that I got so much flak for wanting time off work. I have probably not had an entire week off work in 3-4 years.
In previous years, my husband had a failing small business and we had big money problems. We spent an inheritance from my grandmother trying to keep his business going. He now has a decent job. I will be cutting my work hours back to about 20 when I go to the rn program. His opinion is that seeing as I am going to be making less I should have spent this whole summer working every hour I could to make more money. However, he has made absolutely no changes to his spending habits. In fact, he is out of town this weekend at a recreational event with friends, which is something he does every other weekend.
I understand that sometimes his views on things are self centered and unreasonable. I am working on being more independent, because I used to turn myself into a pretzel to please him and he was very hard to please and this was really hard on me. Our bills are paid, I have money saved for my program. We should be able to weather this period in our lives without debt. Am I wrong for taking these days off? I don't think so but I am now feeling bad/guilty. What do you think?
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