I am starting to think my standards in a suitable girlfriend/long term partner are perhaps too far fetched. My vision of an ideal partner stretches beyond someone I can simply have a romantic connection with, but also a best friend and a partner in various as activities and aspects of life (ranging from something as simple as composing a piece of music together or starting a business based on an issue or problem we are both passionate about etc).
Is this too much of a fairytale idea on what a partner should be like? I see far too many couples and relationships that seemed to be purely based on accompanying each other to dinner and having sex afterwards. The core friendship and connection shared is much more important to me.
Despite being a short arse and not that great looking I have had interest from women through my time at university but I felt that I was not really that compatible with any of them. I had a girlfriend that lasted two months, but I did not feel that we had the intellectual chemistry required to proceed (note, this is not to say I was too intelligent for her, or vice versa).
I am not desperate for a partner or for a relationship, and to date I have been so inundated in my own hobbies and desires that the thought of a relationship never really substantiated much. However, now that I have graduated and am coming towards the end of my year out, I have started to grow more curious about the experiences that a relationship could bring (to put it simply.. I am starting to become lonely).
The qualities I seek in a partner are:
- Intelligent
- Intuitive and open minded
- Understanding/non judgemental
- Caring and loving
- Really passionate about or talented in something (whether it be about music, literature, dancing or whatever)
- Someone open to embarking on creative endeavours together
- Well balanced and smiley
- Not needy or extreme
Having had 'put myself out there', I have yet to come across anyone who I can truly connect with.
Over the years I have realised that my individual character is much unlike most people or the collective (not necessarily in a good way), and so, with some external insight, I want to know whether my idea of a relationship is too unrealistic, and whether I should simplify my expectations a bit?
Put the internet to work for you.
No comments:
Post a Comment