Been married 13 years. Too many issues to mention. Seems like no matter how hard I try this just does'nt work.
Problems started when my husband cheated on me during my pregnacy. For a very long time I felt that when I needed him most he was not there for me. Add to that that he is not very supportive to my needs I eventually started wondering if this was all worth it.
I have however believed in standing by your man and even when he made very bad financial decisions I stood by him and made huge loans to help him. Now I am trapped and can't get out without financially ruining us.
He has always had a thing about internet chat groups. Recently I found out that he was talking to a woman in our town. I read a message asking him if she will see him the following day. He said that he never seen this woman and that he would never go see her.
A week later he told me that he was attending a farewell for a friend. I had no problem at first. He however said that he was planning on staying over the night. The same evening I cought him on his phone, when he saw me he hid the phone from me. He says he was planning a surprise for me. He has never planned any thing for me in our time together.
I did not believe him and got very angry. Said that I think he was planning on meeting this other woman.
I have never been the jealous type. He travels alot and I have never acted like this. Now he feels that I need to go for therapy. He feels that I should trust him no matter what. That I should be okay with him chatting to other woman and believe that he will not do anything wrong. My answer that he has in the past proved that I can't trust him made him very angry. According to him that was in the past and this is now. No matter that he lied to me now by keeping this frienship a secret.
I agreed to work on the marriage again. Started from scratch. From his side it lasted two weeks. He is once again on his phone most evenings. Then today he tells me that maybe we should concider a break. Him moving out. But his mother must still stay with me because it will be better for my daughter to stay on in the house, as a seperation will be hard on her anyway.
I feel used, angry, sad and has been crying alot. Tonight we will sit and discuss the budget to see ifwe can aford a place for him.
What a joke. Wait till he sees the budget, no money for an extra place without giving up the luxuries he got so used to. And I am not looking after his mother.
All said, I still want this to work and I'm still prepared to work on this.
Problems started when my husband cheated on me during my pregnacy. For a very long time I felt that when I needed him most he was not there for me. Add to that that he is not very supportive to my needs I eventually started wondering if this was all worth it.
I have however believed in standing by your man and even when he made very bad financial decisions I stood by him and made huge loans to help him. Now I am trapped and can't get out without financially ruining us.
He has always had a thing about internet chat groups. Recently I found out that he was talking to a woman in our town. I read a message asking him if she will see him the following day. He said that he never seen this woman and that he would never go see her.
A week later he told me that he was attending a farewell for a friend. I had no problem at first. He however said that he was planning on staying over the night. The same evening I cought him on his phone, when he saw me he hid the phone from me. He says he was planning a surprise for me. He has never planned any thing for me in our time together.
I did not believe him and got very angry. Said that I think he was planning on meeting this other woman.
I have never been the jealous type. He travels alot and I have never acted like this. Now he feels that I need to go for therapy. He feels that I should trust him no matter what. That I should be okay with him chatting to other woman and believe that he will not do anything wrong. My answer that he has in the past proved that I can't trust him made him very angry. According to him that was in the past and this is now. No matter that he lied to me now by keeping this frienship a secret.
I agreed to work on the marriage again. Started from scratch. From his side it lasted two weeks. He is once again on his phone most evenings. Then today he tells me that maybe we should concider a break. Him moving out. But his mother must still stay with me because it will be better for my daughter to stay on in the house, as a seperation will be hard on her anyway.
I feel used, angry, sad and has been crying alot. Tonight we will sit and discuss the budget to see ifwe can aford a place for him.
What a joke. Wait till he sees the budget, no money for an extra place without giving up the luxuries he got so used to. And I am not looking after his mother.
All said, I still want this to work and I'm still prepared to work on this.
Put the internet to work for you.
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