This is my first post. I originally had a novel typed out but was afraid that no one would read the whole thing.
Bottom line, married since 2010, had a child in 2012, last time we had intercourse was 2011.
My relationship has hit rock bottom. I am not claiming to be a saint here, I know my previous actions caused some of this. But recently I found out my wife is talking to her ex-boyfriend. I know him, I met him, I though we got a long because a lot of my wife's friends is his family members. And a note, I have never been unfaithful to her.
After months of constant fighting, and distance, and her always on her phone, I had my suspicions. I looked at her phone and saw some pretty graphic texts from him, and when confronted, I heard about invading her privacy and that he was drunk and she was just playing. But I read the messages, I know nowhere in the text he mentioned anything about drinking. Granted she didn't say anything bad, just the fact she was leading him on.
We have not been in the best of our best. We sleep in separate rooms, she no longer wears her wedding ring (she tried wearing again, but caused sores because to small, I offered to re size at jewelers.) Her FB status no longer says in a relationship (doesn't say single and I do not have a FB account).
Our lease is up, so we need to decide what to do. I don't know if she still loves me or not, i have asked. She is a stay at home mom with a 23 month old that had a life saving transplant at 18 months.
She wants to move to a new place, but has no intentions of us. I feel that she is using me for money and a roof over her head.
I have been trying to reconcile our past differences, but she keeps her distances and tells me I am nagging her.
I know invasion to her privacy is wrong, but I am out of options. She won't talk to me, she can't be in the same room as me alone;. After reading those texts, I can log on to her FB and I see things to her ex such as "miss you" "muah" and "i can't afford my own place".
I don't like looking into her personal life. And never did for the first 7 years we been together. But as of now, it looks like I am the only one trying here. I've asked if she still loves me, or if anything is going on between her and her ex, and she ignores anything between me and her, and tells me nothing is going on, they are just friends.
I just find it hard to accept that she can't tell me what she wants. We fight everyday. She always starts it, the moment I walk through the door from work.
I try everything, but can't understand why all the hatred, yet she is interested in signing another lease together.
Bottom line, married since 2010, had a child in 2012, last time we had intercourse was 2011.
My relationship has hit rock bottom. I am not claiming to be a saint here, I know my previous actions caused some of this. But recently I found out my wife is talking to her ex-boyfriend. I know him, I met him, I though we got a long because a lot of my wife's friends is his family members. And a note, I have never been unfaithful to her.
After months of constant fighting, and distance, and her always on her phone, I had my suspicions. I looked at her phone and saw some pretty graphic texts from him, and when confronted, I heard about invading her privacy and that he was drunk and she was just playing. But I read the messages, I know nowhere in the text he mentioned anything about drinking. Granted she didn't say anything bad, just the fact she was leading him on.
We have not been in the best of our best. We sleep in separate rooms, she no longer wears her wedding ring (she tried wearing again, but caused sores because to small, I offered to re size at jewelers.) Her FB status no longer says in a relationship (doesn't say single and I do not have a FB account).
Our lease is up, so we need to decide what to do. I don't know if she still loves me or not, i have asked. She is a stay at home mom with a 23 month old that had a life saving transplant at 18 months.
She wants to move to a new place, but has no intentions of us. I feel that she is using me for money and a roof over her head.
I have been trying to reconcile our past differences, but she keeps her distances and tells me I am nagging her.
I know invasion to her privacy is wrong, but I am out of options. She won't talk to me, she can't be in the same room as me alone;. After reading those texts, I can log on to her FB and I see things to her ex such as "miss you" "muah" and "i can't afford my own place".
I don't like looking into her personal life. And never did for the first 7 years we been together. But as of now, it looks like I am the only one trying here. I've asked if she still loves me, or if anything is going on between her and her ex, and she ignores anything between me and her, and tells me nothing is going on, they are just friends.
I just find it hard to accept that she can't tell me what she wants. We fight everyday. She always starts it, the moment I walk through the door from work.
I try everything, but can't understand why all the hatred, yet she is interested in signing another lease together.
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