I find it hard to think of this to say to people.

Hi, I'm 19 year old male and I just find it hard to think of this to say to people. I'm quite confident speaking when I have things to say, but If I meet a stranger or a relative that I haven't seen in a while, then I just find it hard to come up with things to say. I think the main thing is that I don't want to say anything to them that is intrusive and that might make them feel awkward, which is a shame because I consider myself a witty and confident person around my friends, but I just feel like If I were to act like this around strangers or relatives then they would think I'm acting like a bit of a show off or I'm going to say something stupid. I mean I hate being the center of attention with strangers, relatives and even friends so maybe this is why I don't put myself out there. I've looked up conversation starters and there are ones like asking them what there favorite band Is or where they work, I mean to me these seem kind of intrusive but If someone asked me these things I wouldn't mind it so maybe I'm thinking into it too much. I mean I want to be confident and have things to say to people because I can't go through life being shy and nervous when I want to talk to someone. When I'm in full time employment I want to be able to get on and have conversations with my co-workers not just sit there worrying about what I'm going to say.
If anyone could give me some tips I would really appreciate it.
Thanks.

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