I know this thread is for men... but I'm a 30 y/o female and I'm stuck. I recently ended a relationship abruptly on the 3rd of January because my fiancé did something I felt was so disrespectful. we had been having an issue with weed, he lied about it for the 3.5 years we were together. and recently told me he doesn't want to lie about it anymore and if and when he feels like smoking he's going to smoke regardless of how I feel about it. we argued and I started to call the wedding off, but didn't. then we had an incident to where we had some friends over for a party and he decided to smoke. not only did he smoke but he was the one that brought the weed to the house. so I got really angry and I kicked him out of my house and gave back the ring.
before he left he begged for forgiveness and promised not to do it anymore but I wasn't hearing it at that moment because he told me he quit so many time before. I was so angry but a few days later I calmed down and I missed him and realized that I needed him. he is a great guy but a bit irresponsible. whereas I am very independent and very responsible.
we have gotten into it before and I have kicked him out once before from my previous house. This time though, I've realized that I have been a bit irrational and over the top. I want him back and I'm not sure if I can get him back. his friends are all telling him to run and never look back because I kicked him out twice and gave back the ring he was making payment on. I've been really depressed and have barely slept or eaten for the past 3 weeks. I'm lost without him and I don't know if there is anything I can do since I've beaten his manhood probably down to nothing. so I'm asking... if you had a good woman that has done a lot to make your life better and you love her, would you give her a second chance if she came back to explain and apologize. I've realized that he is much more important to me than I thought and I also started going to counseling to work on me and my reactions to feeling hurt.
yesterday I contacted him, it had been 3 weeks since we last text about our relationship because he won't meet to speak in person or answer my phone calls. I sent him a long email and text about my discoveries and my faults and instead of realizing his faults he continued to blame me and told me he wants nothing to do with me. My friends are telling me to pursue him he I truly love him but his friends continue to tell him to run. what should I do?
Sorry its so long.
before he left he begged for forgiveness and promised not to do it anymore but I wasn't hearing it at that moment because he told me he quit so many time before. I was so angry but a few days later I calmed down and I missed him and realized that I needed him. he is a great guy but a bit irresponsible. whereas I am very independent and very responsible.
we have gotten into it before and I have kicked him out once before from my previous house. This time though, I've realized that I have been a bit irrational and over the top. I want him back and I'm not sure if I can get him back. his friends are all telling him to run and never look back because I kicked him out twice and gave back the ring he was making payment on. I've been really depressed and have barely slept or eaten for the past 3 weeks. I'm lost without him and I don't know if there is anything I can do since I've beaten his manhood probably down to nothing. so I'm asking... if you had a good woman that has done a lot to make your life better and you love her, would you give her a second chance if she came back to explain and apologize. I've realized that he is much more important to me than I thought and I also started going to counseling to work on me and my reactions to feeling hurt.
yesterday I contacted him, it had been 3 weeks since we last text about our relationship because he won't meet to speak in person or answer my phone calls. I sent him a long email and text about my discoveries and my faults and instead of realizing his faults he continued to blame me and told me he wants nothing to do with me. My friends are telling me to pursue him he I truly love him but his friends continue to tell him to run. what should I do?
Sorry its so long.
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