Hi! I'm going to be very frank and open in this post. If you can't accept me for who I am, deal with it.
I'm a guy, at university, and I've very recently come out as bi. I've never kept it a secret; I only really realised recently (just about half a year ago, so I'm still coming to terms with it myself), and if anyone asks me I always tell them, but I'm having trouble with it. I'm fine with being bi; I really like it because it's who I am, and I accept that, but I don't like the consequences of being bi.
Since I've begun telling people, I've started getting a lot more attention from guys than I'm comfortable with. Lots of guys (usually older) keep telling me that I'm "pretty" or "attractive", which is fine, but I hate the way they look at me. I live in student halls, and once, I walked into my bedroom, and there was a guy sat on my bed, and he asked me if he could "touch" me. I managed to trick him into leaving my room and then I locked the door behind me, but I never forgot it. I thought it would just be a one-time thing, but whenever I tell a guy that I'm just going to bed, they seem to see it as an invitation! I actually have to hurry to my room, and lock the door behind me! I shouldn't have to do that!
I'll be honest, I've never been particularly interested in sex. I know that's weird, but I'm just not. I'll do it eventually, but I want it to be meaningful. I just really don't understand why other people think that because I'm bi, I'm going to have sex with them. I know that a lot of people don't understand bisexuality. Some people have told me that I'm just pretending so that I don't have to come out as gay; some people don't understand me when I tell them that being bisexual does not mean that I'm attracted to every single human being on earth.
I just need advice. Is there any way to deter these creeps? Am I just going to have to live with it?
It's sexist, I know, because girls get hit on by weird guys all the time, but I'm just not used to it and it's really shocked me. I just don't know what to do. Any advice is welcome.
Thank you.
I'm a guy, at university, and I've very recently come out as bi. I've never kept it a secret; I only really realised recently (just about half a year ago, so I'm still coming to terms with it myself), and if anyone asks me I always tell them, but I'm having trouble with it. I'm fine with being bi; I really like it because it's who I am, and I accept that, but I don't like the consequences of being bi.
Since I've begun telling people, I've started getting a lot more attention from guys than I'm comfortable with. Lots of guys (usually older) keep telling me that I'm "pretty" or "attractive", which is fine, but I hate the way they look at me. I live in student halls, and once, I walked into my bedroom, and there was a guy sat on my bed, and he asked me if he could "touch" me. I managed to trick him into leaving my room and then I locked the door behind me, but I never forgot it. I thought it would just be a one-time thing, but whenever I tell a guy that I'm just going to bed, they seem to see it as an invitation! I actually have to hurry to my room, and lock the door behind me! I shouldn't have to do that!
I'll be honest, I've never been particularly interested in sex. I know that's weird, but I'm just not. I'll do it eventually, but I want it to be meaningful. I just really don't understand why other people think that because I'm bi, I'm going to have sex with them. I know that a lot of people don't understand bisexuality. Some people have told me that I'm just pretending so that I don't have to come out as gay; some people don't understand me when I tell them that being bisexual does not mean that I'm attracted to every single human being on earth.
I just need advice. Is there any way to deter these creeps? Am I just going to have to live with it?
It's sexist, I know, because girls get hit on by weird guys all the time, but I'm just not used to it and it's really shocked me. I just don't know what to do. Any advice is welcome.
Thank you.
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