When I met my husband I knew that he liked sports. I was from Canada visiting the US and he ended up moving to Canada with me. We married quite fast and now four years later and many discussions about this although I love him very much I am dont have the energy to try to get him interested in things Im interested in.
I feel like so many aspects of myself have dwindled throughout the years because when we have time together I may feel like going to a play or doing something fun and exciting outdoors but he will be grumpy the whole time, so its just easier to go along with what he likes. (or do something on my own while he watches sports.)
I feel like my life is passing me by. I want to explore, have fun, do new things and hes always been a pretty simple guy that has one interest.
I dont want to change him but dont think I should change either! What makes me the most sad is I always saw my life as an opportunity to experience and help others. Make a change in the world and he has zero interest in that at all. He would rather sit around watching other people on TV run around and compete.
He watches baseball, basketball and football. It seems like there is never a break in the year at all! Every other day or weekend there is some major game that must be watched. He also used to umpire baseball (goodbye all nice summer days together) and now refs basketball all over the state on top of working a full time job.
Theres no balance and I just can not forsee having a family with someone who is so obsessed with sports. There are weeks where he literally worked Monday to Friday, refed right after work got home at 10pm every week night and then Friday afternoon had to go out of town to ref and would get home at like 1 in the morning. Then the few days he is home he is either playing football on xbox or watching a game on TV.
I feel resentful because I am the one left doing all of the cooking and cleaning and quite frankly am finding myself wishing I married someone who have more diversity in respect to their interests. Ive always loved art, theatre, anything creative, spirituality, nature and never even had cable (or desire to have cable) before him.
Weve talked about it many times and I would be open to having some sort of agreement where it brought more balance into our time together but he says its impossible because it depends on what team wins etc.
I love him so much but feel like Im sacrificing alot of my happiness, dreams and interests staying in this relationship. I really want to ensure prior to quitting (getting a divorce) that we have honestly tried but I feel like Im the only one trying to make it work. Hes happy because he has a wife that does all the cooking cleaning and he gets to literally do everything he wants. I just cant forsee him ever expanding with me and can not forsee me being able to continue living such a pointless existence in my free time.
I feel like so many aspects of myself have dwindled throughout the years because when we have time together I may feel like going to a play or doing something fun and exciting outdoors but he will be grumpy the whole time, so its just easier to go along with what he likes. (or do something on my own while he watches sports.)
I feel like my life is passing me by. I want to explore, have fun, do new things and hes always been a pretty simple guy that has one interest.
I dont want to change him but dont think I should change either! What makes me the most sad is I always saw my life as an opportunity to experience and help others. Make a change in the world and he has zero interest in that at all. He would rather sit around watching other people on TV run around and compete.
He watches baseball, basketball and football. It seems like there is never a break in the year at all! Every other day or weekend there is some major game that must be watched. He also used to umpire baseball (goodbye all nice summer days together) and now refs basketball all over the state on top of working a full time job.
Theres no balance and I just can not forsee having a family with someone who is so obsessed with sports. There are weeks where he literally worked Monday to Friday, refed right after work got home at 10pm every week night and then Friday afternoon had to go out of town to ref and would get home at like 1 in the morning. Then the few days he is home he is either playing football on xbox or watching a game on TV.
I feel resentful because I am the one left doing all of the cooking and cleaning and quite frankly am finding myself wishing I married someone who have more diversity in respect to their interests. Ive always loved art, theatre, anything creative, spirituality, nature and never even had cable (or desire to have cable) before him.
Weve talked about it many times and I would be open to having some sort of agreement where it brought more balance into our time together but he says its impossible because it depends on what team wins etc.
I love him so much but feel like Im sacrificing alot of my happiness, dreams and interests staying in this relationship. I really want to ensure prior to quitting (getting a divorce) that we have honestly tried but I feel like Im the only one trying to make it work. Hes happy because he has a wife that does all the cooking cleaning and he gets to literally do everything he wants. I just cant forsee him ever expanding with me and can not forsee me being able to continue living such a pointless existence in my free time.
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