Wow...
I haven't been on these forums in a few months and reviewed the previous posts on the subject...and it makes me feel odd.
In short you can guess what happened, I stepped out on my wife with the other woman in question. I was out at a living history event and me and said woman got very hammered and ended up in bed together. When it was all said and done we agreed it never happened and moved on, case closed.
So now, in the back of my head when I have a close moment with my wife this voice in the back of my head says "I cheated" yet, I'm not sure if telling her would be a wise choice.
Right off the bat, she would go psychotic. She has a tendency to blow things out of proportion. I know she would never forgive me, and would constantly bring it up, like she does with both things. She would also take my family (my two dogs) away from me.
Another reason, is things have actually improved emotionally. The sex is still rather non-existent, but I find to be having better moments with her, things seem to be improving.
So I've been weighing the pros and cons of telling her. Can I live with this for the rest of my life? My therapist tells me it's simply down to me. He says if I tell, be prepared to ride the bomb down and deal with it, if I don't, pay for it in another way, be the best husband you can be for the rest of my days and learn from this mistake.
I do love my wife, but I know she would respond. So is it worth it to blow it all away, or keep it silent, and pay for it and be the best I possibly can be to her?
I haven't been on these forums in a few months and reviewed the previous posts on the subject...and it makes me feel odd.
In short you can guess what happened, I stepped out on my wife with the other woman in question. I was out at a living history event and me and said woman got very hammered and ended up in bed together. When it was all said and done we agreed it never happened and moved on, case closed.
So now, in the back of my head when I have a close moment with my wife this voice in the back of my head says "I cheated" yet, I'm not sure if telling her would be a wise choice.
Right off the bat, she would go psychotic. She has a tendency to blow things out of proportion. I know she would never forgive me, and would constantly bring it up, like she does with both things. She would also take my family (my two dogs) away from me.
Another reason, is things have actually improved emotionally. The sex is still rather non-existent, but I find to be having better moments with her, things seem to be improving.
So I've been weighing the pros and cons of telling her. Can I live with this for the rest of my life? My therapist tells me it's simply down to me. He says if I tell, be prepared to ride the bomb down and deal with it, if I don't, pay for it in another way, be the best husband you can be for the rest of my days and learn from this mistake.
I do love my wife, but I know she would respond. So is it worth it to blow it all away, or keep it silent, and pay for it and be the best I possibly can be to her?
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