I am a 49 year old male. I have been married to my beautiful wife for 15 years. She is 40. My main problem is gaining employment.
I have a poor work history. My career field is too narrow and I have made some mistakes in my field ( which I feel I have learned from) and I have had some horrible, horrible bosses. Anyway, 13 years ago, we decided I should be the one staying at home with the kids. I did that for 9 years while my wife worked at a job she really didn't like. In 2009, my youngest entered into the first grade. My wife told me I should get a job. I told her the kids weren't old enough yet. I did try a little bit to get a job, but I was discouraged about the abysmal job market.
The big problem here was I let this drag on for 3 1/2 years! What seemed to be a legitimate concern should have been eroded away, but I still didn't get a job. Finally, she told me she was unhappy with the marriage last year, so I finally got off my sorry butt and started to look for a job. It took me six months, and I had to look in another city, since my city is an employment wasteland. The job is only temporary, pays poorly, and has no benefits.
Earlier this year, I found out she was having an affair with a married rich man. Not only is she having an affair, but she texts him right in front of me! I told her I don't like it, but she keeps telling me it's all my fault I didn't get a job.
Also this year, she was laid off her job. Now we are in financial trouble. She now tells me that if I can't be a provider, then maybe I shouldn't have a wife and family. I am despondent over this.
We haven't had intimate relations in a month. I am now in a loveless marriage. I have apologized to her several times, but she is still very angry.
I know this is a long story, and I probably left some things out, but I am at a loss for what I can do, except for trying to find gainful employment(which is quite difficult nowadays). Please help with any advice you might have. Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you for your attention.
I have a poor work history. My career field is too narrow and I have made some mistakes in my field ( which I feel I have learned from) and I have had some horrible, horrible bosses. Anyway, 13 years ago, we decided I should be the one staying at home with the kids. I did that for 9 years while my wife worked at a job she really didn't like. In 2009, my youngest entered into the first grade. My wife told me I should get a job. I told her the kids weren't old enough yet. I did try a little bit to get a job, but I was discouraged about the abysmal job market.
The big problem here was I let this drag on for 3 1/2 years! What seemed to be a legitimate concern should have been eroded away, but I still didn't get a job. Finally, she told me she was unhappy with the marriage last year, so I finally got off my sorry butt and started to look for a job. It took me six months, and I had to look in another city, since my city is an employment wasteland. The job is only temporary, pays poorly, and has no benefits.
Earlier this year, I found out she was having an affair with a married rich man. Not only is she having an affair, but she texts him right in front of me! I told her I don't like it, but she keeps telling me it's all my fault I didn't get a job.
Also this year, she was laid off her job. Now we are in financial trouble. She now tells me that if I can't be a provider, then maybe I shouldn't have a wife and family. I am despondent over this.
We haven't had intimate relations in a month. I am now in a loveless marriage. I have apologized to her several times, but she is still very angry.
I know this is a long story, and I probably left some things out, but I am at a loss for what I can do, except for trying to find gainful employment(which is quite difficult nowadays). Please help with any advice you might have. Any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you for your attention.
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