My wife and I have been together total 9 years. We have 2 daughters together and I have a son from another marriage. My son is 10 years old and a very good kid.
I know before getting together with my wife there has always been some kind of distance between her and my son. She came into his life when he was 2 years old. When I say distance, I mean the affection between a child and a parent. I understand it is not her son, so I was not very pushy about this. I still hoped and spoke with her numerous times to show him some affection and give him hugs, guidance every once in a wild, but I preferred it came naturally. I see that when she started to date me my son was included in the package.
Well eventually we had two beautiful daughters and of course my wife was very focused on her own biological children and continued to only discipline my son again, every now and then, but never really showed any compassion or affection. My son stays with his biological Mom during the week and I get him during the weekend, every weekend which is fine.
I want him to bond with his sisters as much as possible. His sisters love him very much and they are 4 and 5. We go to trips and I always bring my son with me.
Recently out of the blue, my wife asked me if there can be times where we can just go out with her family, which means me and her daughters. So if we went to a trip or vacation not to bring my son. I was really shocked at this type of though process. I see that my son is part of her family.
Am I looking at this wrong? Am I wrong to feel hurt that she doesn't want my son included on all of our family vacations? Is this normal and do other women feel this way about there step children?
Naturally I was upset, and explained that he is part of our family and I want him to spend time with us and his sisters.
I don't know what else to say. Right now she is frustrated and I am confused. My kid is my kids and I love all 3 of them equally and dearly. I don't know what to say at this point. Eventually she said just forget about it.
Also one of her examples are if we went out of town to visit her family (mom, brothers or sisters) do I need to bring my son. My son has met all her family by now of course and they have no problem with him, but what kind of person makes these type of requests? How can I answer this?
I know before getting together with my wife there has always been some kind of distance between her and my son. She came into his life when he was 2 years old. When I say distance, I mean the affection between a child and a parent. I understand it is not her son, so I was not very pushy about this. I still hoped and spoke with her numerous times to show him some affection and give him hugs, guidance every once in a wild, but I preferred it came naturally. I see that when she started to date me my son was included in the package.
Well eventually we had two beautiful daughters and of course my wife was very focused on her own biological children and continued to only discipline my son again, every now and then, but never really showed any compassion or affection. My son stays with his biological Mom during the week and I get him during the weekend, every weekend which is fine.
I want him to bond with his sisters as much as possible. His sisters love him very much and they are 4 and 5. We go to trips and I always bring my son with me.
Recently out of the blue, my wife asked me if there can be times where we can just go out with her family, which means me and her daughters. So if we went to a trip or vacation not to bring my son. I was really shocked at this type of though process. I see that my son is part of her family.
Am I looking at this wrong? Am I wrong to feel hurt that she doesn't want my son included on all of our family vacations? Is this normal and do other women feel this way about there step children?
Naturally I was upset, and explained that he is part of our family and I want him to spend time with us and his sisters.
I don't know what else to say. Right now she is frustrated and I am confused. My kid is my kids and I love all 3 of them equally and dearly. I don't know what to say at this point. Eventually she said just forget about it.
Also one of her examples are if we went out of town to visit her family (mom, brothers or sisters) do I need to bring my son. My son has met all her family by now of course and they have no problem with him, but what kind of person makes these type of requests? How can I answer this?
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