ok , As I've said before. Its going on 13 weeks now since I learned of the affair. I've also said before that this rollercoaster has me swinging in a different emotion weekly if not daily. I know now for sure that Im in survival mode till he gets the he*l out. I need help in how to live ( ignore ) a naracissist till its all said and done. Last night all the kids were home and he decided to take their cell phones away to go to sleep. Make a long story short the girls went nuts. Crying, complaining etc. He handled it totally wrong and made everything worse. Ended up calling my daughter a liar and his girls saying they hate him etc etc. I tell him in another room how wrong he was for calling one of them a liar etc.
In the mean time his daughter ( he has two from previous marriage and they visit every other weekend) runs into the bathroom looks herself in and starts crying hysterical. The other girls open the door and she is sitting ont he floor rocking back and forth with her hands crossed in front of her. I get her out and bring her to her room where she tells me she feels like she was having an anxiety attack. I get her water and she calms down and tells me, "I just dont want my father to do to you what he did to my mom. I dont want him to leave you. I dont want him to be like his father".
My heart sank. Her sister is sitiing on her bed watching this and my daughter is next to her. After I calm her down I go downstairs to tell him that HIS DAUGHTER is upstairs crying and tell him what she said. He responds with this:
Yes, she's crying because this is all your fault. You are the one screaming and yelling and always brining up my affair for the entire house to hear. It was probably your daughter telling them all the things she hears you say all the time about me and thats why she is so upset now. Its your fault that she knows.
I tell him she is not crying because of an affair she is crying because she hears you fighting and she is worried about your actions because of how you already hurt her mom??!!! I said do NOT put this on me! Instead of paying attention to how your daughter is feeling your responce is , This is your fault??!! You take NO responsibility for your actions AT ALL??!!!
His responce:
Yeah yeah ok, this is my fault right. All of this is happening just because I was F*ing some woman. Yeah ok.
At this point I just walked away. Before I go crazy I need to learn how to deal with this animal till this is done. He will NOT leave. I have a daughter in school up the block and my babysitter watches my baby in our home. I am not leaving. While its not physically abusive this man turns EVERYTHING on me and takes NO responsibility for his actions. How do I handle him ( or not ) till its over????? :confused::(:mad:
In the mean time his daughter ( he has two from previous marriage and they visit every other weekend) runs into the bathroom looks herself in and starts crying hysterical. The other girls open the door and she is sitting ont he floor rocking back and forth with her hands crossed in front of her. I get her out and bring her to her room where she tells me she feels like she was having an anxiety attack. I get her water and she calms down and tells me, "I just dont want my father to do to you what he did to my mom. I dont want him to leave you. I dont want him to be like his father".
My heart sank. Her sister is sitiing on her bed watching this and my daughter is next to her. After I calm her down I go downstairs to tell him that HIS DAUGHTER is upstairs crying and tell him what she said. He responds with this:
Yes, she's crying because this is all your fault. You are the one screaming and yelling and always brining up my affair for the entire house to hear. It was probably your daughter telling them all the things she hears you say all the time about me and thats why she is so upset now. Its your fault that she knows.
I tell him she is not crying because of an affair she is crying because she hears you fighting and she is worried about your actions because of how you already hurt her mom??!!! I said do NOT put this on me! Instead of paying attention to how your daughter is feeling your responce is , This is your fault??!! You take NO responsibility for your actions AT ALL??!!!
His responce:
Yeah yeah ok, this is my fault right. All of this is happening just because I was F*ing some woman. Yeah ok.
At this point I just walked away. Before I go crazy I need to learn how to deal with this animal till this is done. He will NOT leave. I have a daughter in school up the block and my babysitter watches my baby in our home. I am not leaving. While its not physically abusive this man turns EVERYTHING on me and takes NO responsibility for his actions. How do I handle him ( or not ) till its over????? :confused::(:mad:
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