I feel rather cruel to write this, because she is only almost 13, so obviously far more immature than me in my 20s, but I feel like she can be rather bitchy and spoiled at times.
At times, she is very sweet and nice, and we laugh together and stuff. I should mention at this point that they are Spanish, and I am English. I have a degree in Spanish so I am mostly fine in speaking the language, however I am not fluent by any means, and while I can get by fine in conversations, I do sometimes make mistakes, and there are still slang words I don't know the meaning of, etc., but I can make myself understood.
However, on two occasions his sister has spoken about me right in front of me, to my boyfriend and their family, as if I were not there or invisible, or a newborn baby or something.
The first time she informed them all that her friends had made fun of one of my physical features, something which I had understood perfectly well in Spanish, because I tried to laugh off the situation to her, but I thought the way she went about it was rather unkind.
The second thing she did was rather mean. Basically, I took her out for the day and our train broke down. Thankfully, not for too long, but she later joked to her family, again RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME, that she's glad she wasn't stuck with me for too long on the train, because she wouldn't have understood a thing (referring to my Spanish, most probably) and it was obviously supposed to be mean, because my boyfriend said something to her in Spanish that highlighted the fact that she was being mean.
I confronted him later that evening about it, and he tried to tell me that she was not meaning to be mean, and really I think he was just trying to make me feel better and tell me she didn't mean that.
Aside from these things, I have seen her whispering to my boyfriend about my new haircut, and asking him in a very amused manner if I had had it cut (because it was a lot shorter) Then asking me to my face in a faked sweet voice.
Since I stay with them sometimes, I occasionally offer to take her shopping etc. and she is always very pleasant to me during the trips, but has never once said thank you for the lunches i've bought, or the other things i've bought for her. It's not that I have a problem with paying for her, it's just that she cannot even say thank you once .
On another occasion, she had been given a lot of birthday money by her parents, and so we went shopping. She chose a necklace she wanted to buy, but when we got to the till, it was card payment only, but she doesn't have a card, so I had to buy it for her.
She did not even say, thanks, or offer to reimburse me when we got home, even though she had plenty of money herself and it was supposed to be her using her birthday money to buy herself stuff.
Aside from that, she recently laughed at my much younger brother when he was upset, because their father had intimidated him a bit.
She is quite catty and very quick to laugh at people on TV, saying they are ugly and generally making fun of how they say things, and how they look. She can also speak to her parents in a rather demanding and aggressive tone, and even did that to me once.
When we first met, she was very sweet, did drawings for me and stuff like that.
In a way, I think it is hard for her to know that my boyfriend now spends a lot of time with me, because him and her are very close, but of course now we are dating, that time has been reduced. Sometimes when the three of us are sat together, she will try to put herself around him, kiss him, hug him and vy for his attention, as if me and her are in competition or something.
I think she has been very spoiled in her life, and has been raised to believe she is a princess and can do and say exactly as she wants, with very few rules. As I said, sometimes she is very nice, but these are examples of when I have found her very unpleasant.
I do feel unkind as I said, since she is very young, and I know since it's my boyfriend's sister I should just put up and shut up, as it were. Does it sound as if i'm over-reacting, and being too harsh? We have to spend the whole weekend with her soon, the three of us, and I'm not looking forward to it at all.
I have bought her so many presents, I have tried to let them spend time alone, just the two of them, as I am in no way intending to take him away from her, and I understand it can be hard if he's spending less time with her, etc.
At times, she is very sweet and nice, and we laugh together and stuff. I should mention at this point that they are Spanish, and I am English. I have a degree in Spanish so I am mostly fine in speaking the language, however I am not fluent by any means, and while I can get by fine in conversations, I do sometimes make mistakes, and there are still slang words I don't know the meaning of, etc., but I can make myself understood.
However, on two occasions his sister has spoken about me right in front of me, to my boyfriend and their family, as if I were not there or invisible, or a newborn baby or something.
The first time she informed them all that her friends had made fun of one of my physical features, something which I had understood perfectly well in Spanish, because I tried to laugh off the situation to her, but I thought the way she went about it was rather unkind.
The second thing she did was rather mean. Basically, I took her out for the day and our train broke down. Thankfully, not for too long, but she later joked to her family, again RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME, that she's glad she wasn't stuck with me for too long on the train, because she wouldn't have understood a thing (referring to my Spanish, most probably) and it was obviously supposed to be mean, because my boyfriend said something to her in Spanish that highlighted the fact that she was being mean.
I confronted him later that evening about it, and he tried to tell me that she was not meaning to be mean, and really I think he was just trying to make me feel better and tell me she didn't mean that.
Aside from these things, I have seen her whispering to my boyfriend about my new haircut, and asking him in a very amused manner if I had had it cut (because it was a lot shorter) Then asking me to my face in a faked sweet voice.
Since I stay with them sometimes, I occasionally offer to take her shopping etc. and she is always very pleasant to me during the trips, but has never once said thank you for the lunches i've bought, or the other things i've bought for her. It's not that I have a problem with paying for her, it's just that she cannot even say thank you once .
On another occasion, she had been given a lot of birthday money by her parents, and so we went shopping. She chose a necklace she wanted to buy, but when we got to the till, it was card payment only, but she doesn't have a card, so I had to buy it for her.
She did not even say, thanks, or offer to reimburse me when we got home, even though she had plenty of money herself and it was supposed to be her using her birthday money to buy herself stuff.
Aside from that, she recently laughed at my much younger brother when he was upset, because their father had intimidated him a bit.
She is quite catty and very quick to laugh at people on TV, saying they are ugly and generally making fun of how they say things, and how they look. She can also speak to her parents in a rather demanding and aggressive tone, and even did that to me once.
When we first met, she was very sweet, did drawings for me and stuff like that.
In a way, I think it is hard for her to know that my boyfriend now spends a lot of time with me, because him and her are very close, but of course now we are dating, that time has been reduced. Sometimes when the three of us are sat together, she will try to put herself around him, kiss him, hug him and vy for his attention, as if me and her are in competition or something.
I think she has been very spoiled in her life, and has been raised to believe she is a princess and can do and say exactly as she wants, with very few rules. As I said, sometimes she is very nice, but these are examples of when I have found her very unpleasant.
I do feel unkind as I said, since she is very young, and I know since it's my boyfriend's sister I should just put up and shut up, as it were. Does it sound as if i'm over-reacting, and being too harsh? We have to spend the whole weekend with her soon, the three of us, and I'm not looking forward to it at all.
I have bought her so many presents, I have tried to let them spend time alone, just the two of them, as I am in no way intending to take him away from her, and I understand it can be hard if he's spending less time with her, etc.
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