Is This the Best Possible Scenario?

30 year old male here. My wife is LD. It started after she gave birth to our first, sex dropped from once a week to once a month to once a year. She works an immensely stressful (but extremely lucractive) job, and I am a stay at home dad. I love my wife dearly, and I believe she loves me. However, like most of the LD women discussed here, the only problem she has with her situation is that it distresses me so much. The funny thing is I am not even particularly HD, once a week is absolutely fine for me, but then I really start going crazy. As a stay at home parent, I do all the housework and cooking and childrearing, so the "try to help out more at home" advice doesnt work. I am extremely fit, and am moving into power-lifter territory. We do not fight over anything but sex, and the only leverage I have to make things better is threatening divorce, which I definitely absolutely do not want. After our second child was conceived, we went about 14 months without sex, at which time we had a couple of huge fights, and I was able to get her to agree to scheduled sex every two weeks (it has been a month since the last time, but a sickness and menstrual cycle were to blame) and she has stuck to it more or less, although with little passion until the act actually begins (which she enjoys). She will not go to counseling, although she has some definite, "go to the endocrinologist once a month" hormonal problems that we are sorting out. Is this the best that I can do? I dont know how to improve the situation beyond this point, and I dont really talk to anyone about it. Thanks for reading this mass of words.

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