We are growing apart

A little bit of background. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, together 3 and a 1/2. He goes to school and works part-time, I am done with school and work full-time. We are 26 (me) and 27 (him). I pulled a bit of a fast one on my husband. When we married 2 years ago, my favorite things were having fun, working for a paycheck, and complaining. I didn't have much use for religion, and I was very fixated on my looks. My husband was in a rock band, wasn't even in school at the time, and also had not a single care in the world. Life was easy and sexy, lol. Fast-forward 2 years and I am a homebody, working at a CAREER rather than a job, and I'm starting to look forward to having a family and joining a church. My husband thinks all of that is crap, except he likes my bigger paycheck and he would LOVE to have a kid "someday." He is great with kids btw, and he gets excellent grades in college (major is elementary ed). He is also very good with money and tells me he loves me often. So those are his good qualities. Here is the HUGE problem I am having. Husband will curse at me, and sometimes not even during a big fight. Tonight I came home and I saw a bunch of stuff strewn about, so I wearily asked him who came over earlier (I was tired from a long day at work and he has a tendency to invite "the guys" over on a whim - no big deal). He just shook his head and said, "F#ck you." I was stunned so I just muttered something about not wanting to have kids with him, and he went into another room. I wish I could say this was an isolated incident, but I get called a b#tch or told to Eff off a couple times a month. (Turns out he had spent the whole evening working on his financial aid papers online, and they were very frustrating, so he took my question as accusing him of being lazy while I was at work). The older I get, the more deeply and sorrowfully I regret not marrying a Christ-loving man. I can't see him as a protector, a leader, or a spiritual man, and for that I truly mourn. My precious husband did absolutely nothing wrong, because it was ME who changed, not him. The poor guy does not know what to do with this peaceful, baby-craving woman who took over the body of his formerly ill-tempered, hard-partying wife. As a side note, he found emails between me and another guy when we had been married about 6 months. The emails were kind of innocent/kind of flirty, but not dirty or affair-like. I don't know if that has anything to do with this story, but I thought I'd throw that in there so nobody can accuse me of pretending to be perfect. Thanks everyone, sorry this was so long.

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