| Finally made the leap to dating. My body and mind can't seem to wait for papers to be signed at some undetermined point in the future. I have lived alone for 8 months now so it's not like I'm doing this in front of the stbxw or anything. Anyways, POF, Zoosk and OKCupid accounts. Same profile and pics on each. Started off with something that really described me as a lonely loser so I changed it up and went hyper reality mode and turned the table bashing the girls profiles for being so similar and not having good pics, etc. What it's got me so far: Girl #1 I sent the first message. Four messages later I asked for dinner. Very good humor chemistry. She was the same size I expected from the pics and definitely a few extra pounds. Dinner, drinks, made out for 30 minutes in her car almost getting her shirt off in the process. It's all about the small victories. Agreed to another date in the future. Good banter on phone text next few days. Less the days after. Then a feeling like I was bugging her because of one word responses. Been over 3 weeks since the date and I send the occasional Have a nice day text or try to initiate conversation but she seems distracted. She's going on other dates and I figure with the schedule conflicts and distance (about 45 miles) she's probably writing me off too. Too bad cuz she had 42DD's I really wanted to get my hands on...lol Girl #2 I sent the first message. I mean, she had a Harley parked in what looked like her living room. That's the kind of chick I need to be talking to. Her story: single for six years. Married twice, both times to abusers. So she wrote off men for a few years apparently. Great on text. Went from get to know you on OKcupid to text (she gave me her number first). Banter turned to sex stuff. A few short phone calls. Meet for a date last saturday night where we both happened to be close enough even though we were both going out of town. Dinner, move to bar, darts, drinks, hands, kiss, hotel.......and let's just say I ended up trying on nipple clamps. haha.... but no intercourse. Actually she kept her jeans on and bra all night. We didn't sleep much due to all the making out. Plans to go to a concert in two weeks on the way to our cars. Text has been....interesting....very sexual....I think she's making up for six years of repressed sexual frustration. Girl #3 Too far away to date. I think she said hi to me first. She gave me her number pretty quick. Very fresh divorce papers. This one's just going to be a friend because of the distance. Meeting her this saturday to take her out "just as friends". yeah I know, we'll see how that works out. Girl #4 Close enough to see regularly. Younger by about 9 years. No kids. never been married. Doesn't want either. Kind of an emo or goth type chick but our humor chemistry is off the charts. Seeing her Friday night for the first time. Then already have plans to go next tuesday with her to a comedian in houston with her cousin in tow. That's assuming Friday goes well. Girl #5 Separated, no reconcile happening. Kind of churchy on text and talks a lot about God being good to her and watching over her. Which I have no problem with but I think she's just looking for someone to talk to. Flat out told me up front she looks at sex as cheating until papers are signed (regardless of the fact her stbxh is already living with his girlfriend). No plans for a date. Took me over a week to get the rapport to get her number. Girls #6,7,8 All got to phone texting with them but the conversation fizzled or they just aren't seeming interested anymore. IDK. maybe i'm just not getting the right conversation mode with them. No plans for dates. So, if you do the math, that's new girl friday, new girl saturday, visit from the 6 yr single Sunday, then 6 yr single and her coworker Monday night, then new girl form friday on tuesday.... Whew..... I'm not finding the kinds of girls I would expect to see myself going after. But at this point my attitude is strictly in practice mode. I'll have done more dating in the past two months than I ever did to this point. I'm honest on my profile about being separated and I don't lie about myself having a few extra pounds. But I find that when I let myself just be who I remember and the humor and wit flows then the girls respond. And if someone wants to be more than friends I'm certainly not going to try and stop them. hell, the nipple clamp girl says she wants to tie me down and have a man buffet......and I fully intend to let her. ;) | |||
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