| Hello, everyone I'm new here and I think you'll be seeing a lot of me ;) I have a real question and need opinions on it My DH and I have been married for about a year and a half now. We had a moderate sized wedding, with all the fixings. I love him dearly, and nothing dramatic has happened within the time that we've been married but I want to renew our vows. I have several regrets about the first wedding, and want to re-do these things. We were in over our heads with the planning so some things didn't turn out so great. The biggest problem was my dress. In the dress that I ordered, I tried on a size 4 at David's Bridal because that's the only one they had. I needed a 6 so I ordered a size up. When the dress came in I tried it on and walked around for a minute or two and then took it off. On my wedding day, I had cleavage everywhere. The dress was beautiful, but not flattering on me for having large breasts since the dress was strapless. My pictures reflected this. All of my pictures looks like someone stuffed me in the dress. Boobs were everywhere. Even one picture the dress was twisted slightly and my boobs were twisted with it. It's very embarassing, and because of this there were only a few pictures that I felt I could salvage. I feel like the dress ruined my day and my pictures. Other than that, looking back at the pictures, the dress also made me look bulky throughout my midsection. Not only did the pictures look bad because of the dress being ill-fitting, but since I kept having to readjust, I was stressed and upset about that so I'm sure that showed on my face. Everyone told me I was beautiful, and I think it looked ok. But that was my #1 regret. It makes me cringe thinking back on it. Because of that I want to do it over. Nothing extravagent in the least. We just want to say our vows over a cliff, with just the two of us a minister, and our photographer. I'll have a better lovely well-fitted dress, and we will decorate the surrounding trees. No guests, no gifts, no cake. Also, my hubby and I both wanted to elope, so the larger wedding we had was for the sake of family. Doing our 2nd ceremony would ful-fil our wants in this way as well. I'm not looking for perfection, I'm not OCD. There were countless other things that went "wrong", my uncle walked me down the aisle, my mom tried to ruin my reception by having me open gifts, one of the groomsmen couldn't make it, I forgot my garter, etc. I'm not pondering or upset really about any of these. We were planning on doing this next summer. I need opinions on this idea. Of course I know that it's ultimately about our marriage and not the wedding. I'm just way too modest for my breastiful pictures LOL Should we maybe forfeit the minister and just maybe take pictures with me in a new dress? Will this taint my first wedding? What do you guys think? If we did this it would be with all of the elements that we initially wanted. Also, I understand that some will disagree with this. I'm looking for suggestions and perceptions, not judgement. Thanks | |||
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