| I've been married 10 yrs.My husband has from the past few yrs been using a lot of abusive language against me when we have arguments.I'm hurt not just becoz of his words but that it happens in front of my 6 yr old son.He addresses me as "it"(as if I am a thing). eg: "IT cant even understand basic things" or "That one doesnt not know how to behave".He even tells my son things like....."Dont ever become like u'r mom.Dont be stubborn like her".My son just keeps quite for everything.He has witnessed a lot of such things over and over again. It hurts me that he shows disrespect to me in front of my son. My husband finds everythign I do incorrect and stupid.He corrects me about everything and wants me to listen to him.If i dont listen to him...he calls me stubborn.He over and over tells my son as to what a stubborn mother he has. And my husband never ever apologizes for anything coz he does not feel guilty.I have spoken to him many times about how this hurts me...but he only justifies saying ...he would not react this way...if i just listen to him.Everything happened since I didnt listen to him and there is nothing wrong in it....I am just stubborn. He will never go to a marriage counseller.I have tried to take him...but he does not agree. After these arguments, for days we dont talk to each other...but when he wants to have sex...he comes over me....and i forget things and forgive him...and then its like nothing happened. I would be glad to forgive him if he felt sorry for what he did.But he has taken it for granted that I will get ok in few days.He does not want sex often too.He comes to me just once a week...sometimes even skips that.I'm an attractive 30 yr old.But looks like he doesnt like me. Sometimes during heated arguments...he even tells me "Get out of this place.Just getout of my life and my house".Again all this in front of my 6 yr old. Please advice what I need to do.I do not want to divorce him. Just that he may change and feel bad about what hez been doing to me. This totally effects me.I go into depression for days when this happens and cant concentrate even at work. | |||
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