not sure how to react

I've been with a woman for over 12 years and we recently married and have started a new life in a small community in which she was born and raised. I'm considered to be very much the outsider by just about everyone. Despite this everything was going just about well until my new wife decided to start drinking in the local bar. I've never been one for bars and until we moved here nor was she. She started getting home later and later, pi$$ed out of her head and finally didn't even get back to the next morning. I actually went round to the bar banging on the door but she refused to come out, they wouldn't let me in and the woman who runs the place told me in no uncertain terms that it wasn't their fault if my wife preferred their company to mine. The climax came a few days later when I learnt of an all night beach party which my wife had actually organised but hadn't told me about. Seems I was the only one not to be invited in the whole bloody place. She was with a group of local men when I asked her what the hell was going on. It ended with me being battered by these blokes. She did intervene to stop them but even so went off with them. You'll be pleased to read that I did throw her out when she turned up next day. In fact I drove her to her family's farm and threw her bodily out of the car, bags and all. A couple of weeks later she's on the telephone crying and begging me to take her back claiming to have suffered a nervous breakdown. Against my better judgement I did exactly that and we moved to yet another remote community to start all over again. I've just been told she's been having an affair. In fact I've been told that she was constantly unfaithful to me all the years we were together despite her always laying claim to the high moral ground. Seems I never knew the woman at all. I feel such a complete ****head. She's all sweetness and light and I don't know what to do or who to believe.

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