this is the hardest decision that i have ever had to make. even though this man has been noting but toxic to me. i still love him and want to be with him. but i know that i cannot because he was just continue with this nonsense.
i need help getting over him and i need it fast. i am wondering if you guys can help talk me through this. just a little back story in case some of you have not read my other post. i have taken this man back more times than anyone can imagine and it always ends up with the same results. he cheats,he lies, he disappears, he doesn't help me with anything and when he disappears, he doesn't answer his phone.
we have been trying at this since we have gotten married. we would break up for his adultery and then i'd take him right back. i had finally had enough and finally filed for divorce and went cold and dark on him for a while. we got back together and here comes the boom again. only this time he didn't move back in. he would tell me that he was on his way over and would never show up. then i'd call him several time to see where he is, and he would not answer the phone. and then i wouldn't hear from him for about 2 to 3 weeks. i'd take him back thinking, hoping and praying that he finally changed and wouldn't do it again.
I took him back one last time and still disappeared. only this time, he'd come right back the next day saying that he fell asleep and that's the reason he missed my call. me, so bad wanting to make this work, believed in him until he did it a 4th time. 4 times he did this within 2 1/2 weeks and i finally said no more. now he's all angry with me because he says that i did not give him a chance to show me that he had changed. i don't think that within 2 1/2 weeks i should be reminded of why we broke up several times to begin with. am i right? or am i over reacting? he says that i have no patience. he wants us to move in together, but how can i move in with a man when i'm terrified that he will not come home every night and then come up with some lame excuse as to why he didn't come home. i have heard every excuse under the sun even down to "i lost my cell phone and i was so stressed out that i had a headache and just fell asleep".
what am i supposed to do? he's making me feel like i've done a bad thing for leaving him and not letting him fix us. the last time he stayed out which was last thursday, he showed up on friday trying to cuddle me and talk to me. but i didn't want him to touch me and i didn't want to talk to him. i left out the next morning without saying anything to him and i never saw him again. then he calls me yesterday saying that he was angry at me for treating him so poorly because of him disappearing again. that's when he started accusing me of not giving him a chance to show me that he wants the marriage and wants to be with me.
i am so lost and deep in thought. Please guys!! help me!!
i need help getting over him and i need it fast. i am wondering if you guys can help talk me through this. just a little back story in case some of you have not read my other post. i have taken this man back more times than anyone can imagine and it always ends up with the same results. he cheats,he lies, he disappears, he doesn't help me with anything and when he disappears, he doesn't answer his phone.
we have been trying at this since we have gotten married. we would break up for his adultery and then i'd take him right back. i had finally had enough and finally filed for divorce and went cold and dark on him for a while. we got back together and here comes the boom again. only this time he didn't move back in. he would tell me that he was on his way over and would never show up. then i'd call him several time to see where he is, and he would not answer the phone. and then i wouldn't hear from him for about 2 to 3 weeks. i'd take him back thinking, hoping and praying that he finally changed and wouldn't do it again.
I took him back one last time and still disappeared. only this time, he'd come right back the next day saying that he fell asleep and that's the reason he missed my call. me, so bad wanting to make this work, believed in him until he did it a 4th time. 4 times he did this within 2 1/2 weeks and i finally said no more. now he's all angry with me because he says that i did not give him a chance to show me that he had changed. i don't think that within 2 1/2 weeks i should be reminded of why we broke up several times to begin with. am i right? or am i over reacting? he says that i have no patience. he wants us to move in together, but how can i move in with a man when i'm terrified that he will not come home every night and then come up with some lame excuse as to why he didn't come home. i have heard every excuse under the sun even down to "i lost my cell phone and i was so stressed out that i had a headache and just fell asleep".
what am i supposed to do? he's making me feel like i've done a bad thing for leaving him and not letting him fix us. the last time he stayed out which was last thursday, he showed up on friday trying to cuddle me and talk to me. but i didn't want him to touch me and i didn't want to talk to him. i left out the next morning without saying anything to him and i never saw him again. then he calls me yesterday saying that he was angry at me for treating him so poorly because of him disappearing again. that's when he started accusing me of not giving him a chance to show me that he wants the marriage and wants to be with me.
i am so lost and deep in thought. Please guys!! help me!!
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