So basically this sikh guy lives across the road from me and has done so for the past 18 years, I am a muslim girl, I wouldn't say we grew up with each other but I would see him and probably played football with him once when I was younger. 2 years ago he came and started working in the same place I work for 3 months before moving to work next door. He use to have me on my old instagram and then added me on my new one and about 11 weeks ago sent me a direct message where we got talking and exchanged numbers. We met up and have been talking through text and phone here and there, the issue is that i have very much fallen for this guy I use to feel weird butterflies every time i seen him outside or at work he also claims to like me back.
The issue is that we started dating and meeting up all the time seeing each other going out and he would show a lot of interest but my main concern is he is always online on whatsapp we usually have about 10-15 messages in a day sent to each other but hes constantly online, sometimes he ignores my messages (as whatsapp has now introduced the blue ticks), this really annoys me I have told him many times and he seems to understand at that point but goes and does the same thing and doesnt seem bothered that it hurts me. I have been cheated on in the past so this is an issue which is always going to stick with me, majority of his followers are girls on instagram, he will like their pics but doesnt like mines, i have had guys in the past who have been very interested in me and i know what it feels like when a guy is really into you but this guy is confusing me, i have threatened to leave once and he came out with i love you after 1 month of dating.. this then meant we were now in a relationship. Every time i threaten to leave because of the pain, i feel he pulls me back by saying how much he loves me. The issue is that I feel like hes cheating or talking to other girls but i have no proof..
I have told him openly if he finds someone else or wants to leave he can go, why is he with me if i have given him that choice and if he is cheating.. but its confusing because we do go on dates and he does see me and when were together he is caring, about the whatsapp he says he has a lot of extended family and is quite popular and has a lot of friends but i also have many friends but even i cant be on whatsapp all the time talking to them, even when he is at work he will be online on whatsapp! for me he is my priority and everytime he messages i would see his message before anyone else's so why do i not get the same response.
I am in a situation where i want to leave so i can start healing i guess but also i dont know how to leave, i have asked him many times what does he want he says he wants to be with me but his words do not match his actions, I dont want to be played I have told him and he knows I am not that type of girl who would go with any guy another thing was some nights he phones me and some nights he doesnt its more rare tbh is that normal? his words confuse me with his actions. I dont know what to do, its really hurting me because I really have fallen for this guy, its something I havent felt before..what would you do in my situation? I have spoken to him so many times but I am not fake and I cant hide the fact it hurts me with him being on whatsapp constantly its something that really gets to me....Advice would be very much appreciated.
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