Dear all:
My post might indicate a state of an unfocused mind, but I am confused, so please bear with me.
My ex is sick, or so she claims, and wants to move my girls away with her to stay with some of her family members in the west coast to take care of her (moving from about three hours driving away from the east coast, where I live). I don't know if she is really sick, or if it's a ruse to get her wish of taking the girls and live in the west coast (which I have declined before, when things were normal), and maybe to start a legal battle from a place far away to put a burden on me.
There are many reasons that leads me to suspect her, including the fact that all the hospitals she went to found nothing wrong with her, and discharged her after monitoring her for a couple of days. And the fact that her description of what she has changed over time from something I could sympathize with (something that I remember she had when we were together), to something that's different, but can't be pin-pointed to by medical tests.
However, she had to be taken to the hospital two times, leaving the under-age girls alone. This caused the social services to get involved. Luckily, they waited for me to get them, and she got them back after she took a couple of weeks to recover. So, I am not sure if she did all of that as a part of a complicated plot (it seems extreme to me), but I don't know what to believe. I also keep wondering what she is really sick and the hospitals just didn't do their job right? I don't want to be unfair.
She lied to me before, so I naturally don't trust her.
What's the best way to deal with this? I feel that it's unfair to restrict her movement, but it is also unfair to me to be so far from my girls. If she moves them there, the financial burden will also be great and won't allow me to travel and see them as often. They can't travel by themselves.
One thought that occurred to me was to get with an agreement with her to move only temporary until she recovers, and give her say 6 or 8 months, after that she either comes back with the girls, or sends them to live with me. I can eat the cost for several months, but I can't sustain that for long.
What should I do? What do you advise? Please.
My post might indicate a state of an unfocused mind, but I am confused, so please bear with me.
My ex is sick, or so she claims, and wants to move my girls away with her to stay with some of her family members in the west coast to take care of her (moving from about three hours driving away from the east coast, where I live). I don't know if she is really sick, or if it's a ruse to get her wish of taking the girls and live in the west coast (which I have declined before, when things were normal), and maybe to start a legal battle from a place far away to put a burden on me.
There are many reasons that leads me to suspect her, including the fact that all the hospitals she went to found nothing wrong with her, and discharged her after monitoring her for a couple of days. And the fact that her description of what she has changed over time from something I could sympathize with (something that I remember she had when we were together), to something that's different, but can't be pin-pointed to by medical tests.
However, she had to be taken to the hospital two times, leaving the under-age girls alone. This caused the social services to get involved. Luckily, they waited for me to get them, and she got them back after she took a couple of weeks to recover. So, I am not sure if she did all of that as a part of a complicated plot (it seems extreme to me), but I don't know what to believe. I also keep wondering what she is really sick and the hospitals just didn't do their job right? I don't want to be unfair.
She lied to me before, so I naturally don't trust her.
What's the best way to deal with this? I feel that it's unfair to restrict her movement, but it is also unfair to me to be so far from my girls. If she moves them there, the financial burden will also be great and won't allow me to travel and see them as often. They can't travel by themselves.
One thought that occurred to me was to get with an agreement with her to move only temporary until she recovers, and give her say 6 or 8 months, after that she either comes back with the girls, or sends them to live with me. I can eat the cost for several months, but I can't sustain that for long.
What should I do? What do you advise? Please.
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