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So I have been married a little over 2 years and we have been together almost 3. But pretty much since day 1 our relationship has been very drama filled, but not with us. Let me explain
My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship, when I met him they had just finished a messy divorce in which he basically lost. Although with that he and his ex got along ok. They had their moments of drama but it was basically calming down. His family was super supportive of him and of our relationship. It was great.
We got married and it all changed. His ex turned him into the state for non payment of child support (which was not true, it was just paperwork that needed to be turned in) but they docked his paycheck for back child support.
I got pregnant and at the same time he and his Mother had a huge fight and stopped talking to each other.
A couple of months later we find out his ex wife's live in boyfriend was arrested in front of his daughter for a felony, so he took her back to court for more custody.
We had a lengthy court battle, most of which was during my pregnancy and the first 5 months of my sons life. We have a home study and other intrusive things done. My husband won custody and his relationship with his ex went down the toilet.
There was some other issues between them after (I don't want to go into, it would take forever) and the relationship went downhill even more.
So through this all our marriage suffered, we used all our savings for the court battle, we fight all the time, it was awful due to the stress. We now have a really strained relationship. Some days are better than others, but overall its been really hard.
So most of this mess is done, the court battle is basically over, his family hasn't been around but at least they are no longer arguing, they are just ignoring us. But we can't seem to get over it.We fight all the time. We have a really hard time getting along. And lately I dont even know why we are married.
We have talked about divorce, I have asked for counseling but he doesn't want to, although he says he does, but he refuses to actually do anything about it.
I am so unhappy and tired and I don't know what to do.
So I have been married a little over 2 years and we have been together almost 3. But pretty much since day 1 our relationship has been very drama filled, but not with us. Let me explain
My husband has a daughter from a previous relationship, when I met him they had just finished a messy divorce in which he basically lost. Although with that he and his ex got along ok. They had their moments of drama but it was basically calming down. His family was super supportive of him and of our relationship. It was great.
We got married and it all changed. His ex turned him into the state for non payment of child support (which was not true, it was just paperwork that needed to be turned in) but they docked his paycheck for back child support.
I got pregnant and at the same time he and his Mother had a huge fight and stopped talking to each other.
A couple of months later we find out his ex wife's live in boyfriend was arrested in front of his daughter for a felony, so he took her back to court for more custody.
We had a lengthy court battle, most of which was during my pregnancy and the first 5 months of my sons life. We have a home study and other intrusive things done. My husband won custody and his relationship with his ex went down the toilet.
There was some other issues between them after (I don't want to go into, it would take forever) and the relationship went downhill even more.
So through this all our marriage suffered, we used all our savings for the court battle, we fight all the time, it was awful due to the stress. We now have a really strained relationship. Some days are better than others, but overall its been really hard.
So most of this mess is done, the court battle is basically over, his family hasn't been around but at least they are no longer arguing, they are just ignoring us. But we can't seem to get over it.We fight all the time. We have a really hard time getting along. And lately I dont even know why we are married.
We have talked about divorce, I have asked for counseling but he doesn't want to, although he says he does, but he refuses to actually do anything about it.
I am so unhappy and tired and I don't know what to do.
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