Hi Guys,
I'm struggling a bit in my current relationship with my GF after my 8 year marriage failed nearly 2 years ago. Essentially I was cheated on, she was unwilling or unable to R and we broke up. Formal divorce is May 23rd so not far away.
Have known my current GF for 11 months now. When I first met her I was a mess, but I am much better now and starting to move on with my life. Still some anger and hurt about what my wife did, but I'm sure that is normal.
The problem I'm having is that I'm not feeling love toward my new GF the same as I was for my wife.
I adored my wife and I would have done anything for her. My counsellor would later tell me I had a fantasy about who she was because of her emotional absence throughout our relationship.
Now I'm totally confused and sad. I don't know whether the love I am seeking is not real or whether I just don;t have it with this girl. Most baffling with my current GF is that the sex is amazing, we get on really well, awesome chemistry, and all the same values.
Should I be feeling the whole swept off my feet, heart pounding, can't think straight, need to be with her kind of love or is this just unrealistic?
I think I will find it hard to live life without those feelings now and is why I constantly question my current relationship.
I'm struggling a bit in my current relationship with my GF after my 8 year marriage failed nearly 2 years ago. Essentially I was cheated on, she was unwilling or unable to R and we broke up. Formal divorce is May 23rd so not far away.
Have known my current GF for 11 months now. When I first met her I was a mess, but I am much better now and starting to move on with my life. Still some anger and hurt about what my wife did, but I'm sure that is normal.
The problem I'm having is that I'm not feeling love toward my new GF the same as I was for my wife.
I adored my wife and I would have done anything for her. My counsellor would later tell me I had a fantasy about who she was because of her emotional absence throughout our relationship.
Now I'm totally confused and sad. I don't know whether the love I am seeking is not real or whether I just don;t have it with this girl. Most baffling with my current GF is that the sex is amazing, we get on really well, awesome chemistry, and all the same values.
Should I be feeling the whole swept off my feet, heart pounding, can't think straight, need to be with her kind of love or is this just unrealistic?
I think I will find it hard to live life without those feelings now and is why I constantly question my current relationship.
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