Introducing a New Child into Family

A few years ago my husband and I were notified that an ex of his is claiming that her child is also his. We knew of the allegations and when she told him he asked for a DNA test. She refused so in turn he refused any support or to see the child. We had three children at that time and he is a great father. I always kept the mother informed of our address and phone number in the event that she wanted to contact us regarding doing a DNA test. After going to court the little girl in question is his daughter. How should we continue with this? The mother wants child support (we don't object so long as its within reason) and NO visitation.

Any suggestions for dealing with the very angry and bitter mother? How should we tell our children about this child? The mother doesn't want anything to do with us at all. But my husband was granted visitation. Who should be the one to tell the child (she's 10 yrs old) who he is? The mother has had two different men take on the fatherly role.

So far the mother is trying to stop the visitation but was ordered to comply with visitation. We offered the mother to do supervised visits if she'd like but she declined. My husband and I don't want to overwhelm the little girl with our large family right away. How should we go about this? His first visit is scheduled for Saturday.

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