Hello all,
I am a 32 yo male married to a 33yo female. We have been married for just under 2 years. No kids yet. I have a professional income about 5X my wife's above average blue collar income. We have no prenup. We are having infertility issues and going through IVF.
I have been very anxious about our marriage for the past 6 months and at times want to walk out. A lot of it comes from immaturity & selfishness. I admit to it. Essentially, I've come to think that I offer more to my wife than she does to me. Here are some facts:
1) I have a professional degree while she has a Bachelors. I keep hearing/reading that women tend to be more educated that their partners' these days and it makes me feel uneasy. My wife is very smart in her own ways but not as academic as I am.
2) As stated above, I make much more $$. So i get bitter about contributing much more to our finances and think to myself "what do i get outta this?" I know it sounds very selfish but I am only human. I worked very hard to be here. I also worry that in case of a divorce (for whatever reason) I'll be hit with alimony and child support that will ruin the luxury life I deserve (remember again 13 years of post-secondary school, no fun in younger years, stressful work)
3) We are having fertility issues. Simply put, she cannot ovulate due to low egg reserves. We're actually far into IVF with 2 embryos frozen and more cycles coming up. My wife has been an angel through it all and i have done relatively ok. However, I sometimes get bitter that I got stuck with an infertile wife. I didn't have too much fun with the ladies in my younger years but now that I can score lots of women, I am stuck in this situation. It just makes me angry. I feel terrible for these selfish thoughts because I know it's 100X harder for my wife who is the person going through all the shots and procedures.
4) I am 1 year younger than my wife. I always hear about guys going for the younger ladies and enjoying sexual adventures with 'perfect bodies' and i wonder if i made the wrong choice my marrying someone my own age. Everyone keeps saying women go downhill after 40, etc. So i am scared I'll lose attraction towards my wife in just 10 years from now and live a sex-less miserable life till i die. Maybe I am crazy but how do you explain all these old perverted men and the media portrayal of guys like George Clooney?
A few things about my wife: she's beautiful inside and out. She is very kind and takes care of me. I trust her 100% if not more. She is super honest and loyal. She's smart and independent. She would make an unreal mom. She is super low maintenance. We do lots of activities together and she's very physically active.
I would appreciate any feedback. Thanks so much.
I am a 32 yo male married to a 33yo female. We have been married for just under 2 years. No kids yet. I have a professional income about 5X my wife's above average blue collar income. We have no prenup. We are having infertility issues and going through IVF.
I have been very anxious about our marriage for the past 6 months and at times want to walk out. A lot of it comes from immaturity & selfishness. I admit to it. Essentially, I've come to think that I offer more to my wife than she does to me. Here are some facts:
1) I have a professional degree while she has a Bachelors. I keep hearing/reading that women tend to be more educated that their partners' these days and it makes me feel uneasy. My wife is very smart in her own ways but not as academic as I am.
2) As stated above, I make much more $$. So i get bitter about contributing much more to our finances and think to myself "what do i get outta this?" I know it sounds very selfish but I am only human. I worked very hard to be here. I also worry that in case of a divorce (for whatever reason) I'll be hit with alimony and child support that will ruin the luxury life I deserve (remember again 13 years of post-secondary school, no fun in younger years, stressful work)
3) We are having fertility issues. Simply put, she cannot ovulate due to low egg reserves. We're actually far into IVF with 2 embryos frozen and more cycles coming up. My wife has been an angel through it all and i have done relatively ok. However, I sometimes get bitter that I got stuck with an infertile wife. I didn't have too much fun with the ladies in my younger years but now that I can score lots of women, I am stuck in this situation. It just makes me angry. I feel terrible for these selfish thoughts because I know it's 100X harder for my wife who is the person going through all the shots and procedures.
4) I am 1 year younger than my wife. I always hear about guys going for the younger ladies and enjoying sexual adventures with 'perfect bodies' and i wonder if i made the wrong choice my marrying someone my own age. Everyone keeps saying women go downhill after 40, etc. So i am scared I'll lose attraction towards my wife in just 10 years from now and live a sex-less miserable life till i die. Maybe I am crazy but how do you explain all these old perverted men and the media portrayal of guys like George Clooney?
A few things about my wife: she's beautiful inside and out. She is very kind and takes care of me. I trust her 100% if not more. She is super honest and loyal. She's smart and independent. She would make an unreal mom. She is super low maintenance. We do lots of activities together and she's very physically active.
I would appreciate any feedback. Thanks so much.
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