Baby : Timing in new marriage when 35 or older

Hello,

I'm new here, but this group seems to be supportive and informative, so thought I'd get some opinions.

I know, it is generally not advisable to conceive within the 1st year of marriage, but does this stands when you are racing against your biological clock?

I'm about to turn 35 and desperately want to have a child. My wedding is in 7 months and my fiancé and I want to prioritise having a child.

I'm worried that if we conceive too early, this might negatively impact our marriage, especially when there are other circumstances at play:

1. I'm new to his country and have no friends/family local (his family loves me).

2. We were long distance for the duration of our relationship (2yrs) so I want us to spend some time just being a normal couple.

2. We're doing major renovations that will take a few years to complete.

I must add that the women (over 30) in my family usually experience hypertension during pregnancy and one of my sisters died during childbirth at age 36 (she was overweight and a smoker).This makes me extremely scared.

I have always led a healthy lifestyle and have no major health issues. I'm currently trying to lose 15 pounds to be at my ideal weight and I'm sorting out a dental issue so that I'm in the best of health for pregnancy.

Should we wait a year after marriage to try to conceive or should we try as soon as possible since I'm 35?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts/opinions?

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