Just a little back story. Last November I found out my wife had cheated on me. Its documented on here so I won't go into to much detail on it. I decided to stay and reconcile with her. 6 months later, my job of 10 years came to and end when the business shut down. To say this has been the hardest year of my life is a severe understatement.
As far as my marriage, I can honestly say that things have been great the past year between us. She has shown me over the past year how much she regrets what she did and how sorry she is. Her actions have been consistent and she has done what she needed to do to start fixing what she broke.
The issue today is that I have an interview this week for a job that would pretty much be the opposite of my wife and children's schedule. I'll pretty much only see my 6 year old for about 30 minutes a day when I wake her up and get her ready for school. My wife goes to work very early so she has to go to bed early. I'll pretty much only be able to spend about 20-30 minutes a day with her.
I know a job is a job and you have to do what you have to do...but i'm wondering if its a smart idea to take it. Let me preface this by saying I'm not concerned about her cheating on me again. I'm concerned about the toll it will take on the marriage since we are still in a fragile state. Since I met her, we have always worked the same schedule so this will be a massive change. She will have to handle everything with the kids since I won't be there. Our time together will be extremely limited during the week.
I know without a doubt I will not be happy being away from my wife and kids. I mean, the thought of only spending 20-30 minutes a day while my baby is awake kills me already.
I just have a bad feeling that having this type of schedule will bring on a lot of stress on both of us. She will have to handle everything herself and I will hate not being there for her and my kids to help. Being without a job is incredibly stressful, but luckily I've made smart decisions and can last a while without one.
I just don't know what to do because I know I will not be happy with a schedule like that and neither will my wife and kids. However its hard to turn down good money. So, for the sake of my fragile marital state, is it a smart idea to make such a drastic schedule change?
Just want to get some advice.
As far as my marriage, I can honestly say that things have been great the past year between us. She has shown me over the past year how much she regrets what she did and how sorry she is. Her actions have been consistent and she has done what she needed to do to start fixing what she broke.
The issue today is that I have an interview this week for a job that would pretty much be the opposite of my wife and children's schedule. I'll pretty much only see my 6 year old for about 30 minutes a day when I wake her up and get her ready for school. My wife goes to work very early so she has to go to bed early. I'll pretty much only be able to spend about 20-30 minutes a day with her.
I know a job is a job and you have to do what you have to do...but i'm wondering if its a smart idea to take it. Let me preface this by saying I'm not concerned about her cheating on me again. I'm concerned about the toll it will take on the marriage since we are still in a fragile state. Since I met her, we have always worked the same schedule so this will be a massive change. She will have to handle everything with the kids since I won't be there. Our time together will be extremely limited during the week.
I know without a doubt I will not be happy being away from my wife and kids. I mean, the thought of only spending 20-30 minutes a day while my baby is awake kills me already.
I just have a bad feeling that having this type of schedule will bring on a lot of stress on both of us. She will have to handle everything herself and I will hate not being there for her and my kids to help. Being without a job is incredibly stressful, but luckily I've made smart decisions and can last a while without one.
I just don't know what to do because I know I will not be happy with a schedule like that and neither will my wife and kids. However its hard to turn down good money. So, for the sake of my fragile marital state, is it a smart idea to make such a drastic schedule change?
Just want to get some advice.
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