Good evening all
I'm sad to be posting this. For many years my wife and I had a very poor sex life. Declining frequency - eventually down to less than once a month, and in addition she was extremely selfish in bed.
A few years ago (after many previous attempts) I confronted her. Though I didn't tell her, this conversation was going to end in my asking for a divorce. To my surprise she tried to improve and DID. We started having sex every other day. She was much more open to doing things. We were BOTH happy. Our lives were so much better.
Sadly though the decline has started again. As when we first met it is very gradual. Every other day became every other day when we weren't too busy, to twice a week, to weekly, to weekly when we weren't too busy. Now its been a month.
The thing is, life has been very difficult for her lately. Job problems, elderly parents passed away. She has every right to be stressed and not want sex.
OTOH, every thing just results in a downward ramp. I don't want to pressure her now with all the problems she is facing - but at the same time I'm bothered that whenever things go wrong it is sex that disappears first. We still spend time with friends, go for hikes in the mountains, she goes to the opera etc.
So I'm torn. If I bug her about sex now, I will be acting like a complete A$$hole give the problems in her life. OTOH, why is sex always the thing that suffers?
I'll probably give her a few months then try to talk again. I don't have high hopes though.
I'm sad to be posting this. For many years my wife and I had a very poor sex life. Declining frequency - eventually down to less than once a month, and in addition she was extremely selfish in bed.
A few years ago (after many previous attempts) I confronted her. Though I didn't tell her, this conversation was going to end in my asking for a divorce. To my surprise she tried to improve and DID. We started having sex every other day. She was much more open to doing things. We were BOTH happy. Our lives were so much better.
Sadly though the decline has started again. As when we first met it is very gradual. Every other day became every other day when we weren't too busy, to twice a week, to weekly, to weekly when we weren't too busy. Now its been a month.
The thing is, life has been very difficult for her lately. Job problems, elderly parents passed away. She has every right to be stressed and not want sex.
OTOH, every thing just results in a downward ramp. I don't want to pressure her now with all the problems she is facing - but at the same time I'm bothered that whenever things go wrong it is sex that disappears first. We still spend time with friends, go for hikes in the mountains, she goes to the opera etc.
So I'm torn. If I bug her about sex now, I will be acting like a complete A$$hole give the problems in her life. OTOH, why is sex always the thing that suffers?
I'll probably give her a few months then try to talk again. I don't have high hopes though.
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