Off & On For Years - Time to pack it in?

My wife and I have two young children - toddlers. We've been married 10 years and dated for many before that.

The intimacy has been off and on the entire time. Sometimes we would go months without sex. Sometimes as many or five, six or more.

Then we would talk about it, and things would go good for a month or two. This has gone one for as long as we've known each other.

It's always the same story.

Too tired.
Hurry up and get it done.
Not interested.
Not in the mood.
Don't feel like it.

There has always been zero public affection. She has NEVER instigated even private affection.

Then, a few months things got crazy for about two weeks. My wife claimed her sex drive "was back" stronger than ever. Multiple orgasms, sex multiple times, tons of intimacy & affection. We were very happy for about two weeks.

Then, it just stopped and we're back at the same for the past three months. She just shut off again.

Now me.

I truly loved her for years and couldn't imagine life without her. She's an amazing mother, but I'm not sure I'm prepared to stay her husband anymore.

I have A LOT of anger built up. I'm sick of it, really. Because it's the same thing again and again, and again.

I'm finding the more this has happened, the more I've become less attracted to her emotionally and physically. I don't feel like talking to her. TO be perfectly honest, I don't even want to look at her anymore.

I'm also at the point where I'm hesitant "things can change" with counselling.

Quite frankly, this has always been an issue since the first year we dated.

Now we have two young kids, but I think I am getting ready to pull the plug.

I adore my children and I'm certainly not sure I'm ready to put this on them and their lives, but I'm not sure I want to stay married.

Thoughts?

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