Ladies and Gents, so here we are.
My name is Bryan and have been married for 9+ years, and I have three beautiful children.
The short version is that my wife and I have nothing in common, and our personalities couldn't be more different. We've grown apart over time. Since there is no common thread other than our kids, it's basically caused us to bring out the worst in each other and, so here I am; and if nothing else, I'm able to get this all out and off my chest-- so thanks for reading.
We recently moved from just outside of Washington DC to South Florida on her request so that we could be closer family, since we were all alone and isolated in Virginia with a family of 5 and nothing else. I begged my employer for an internal transfer, and after a ton of coordination and them bending over backwards to make things happen, they relocated me, and even paid the bill for the move. Career wise, this is the best company I could work at in my field and I am very very fortunate in that regard.
We are still selling our property in Va, and have moved in with my parents. It's not as bad as it sounds, and I really hope that one day I can express my gratitude to them. They have been very supportive and helpful during this transition we're in while moving.
I admit that I can be a very mean, nasty, and selfish person. I know its a problem, and I'm seeking help for it thru counseling. My wife does not work, but she stays home and takes care of the younger two, who are in a 1/2 day preschool program. She is very heavily involved with online gaming, and much of the time I feel as if she puts more of a focus on that than 'real life'. Thru this she's made many male friends which has sparked my jealousy since she's getting emotional support from them instead of from me.
We are total opposites--except that she doesn't like beer, I'm the 'girl' in the relationship. She likes football, video games, not talking about emotions. I wear my emotions on my sleeve, and I'm about to burst because of this situation.
I've been married once before and that ended after only two years, even though we were high school sweethearts. So this is the second time in my adult life that I've screwed things up and I don't know how to cope with this. I'm so disappointed with my personal life and now its falling apart in front of me.
I took today off of work so we could try to talk and all its done for me, is make me feel like a failure as a husband because I can be such an ******* to her (and our personalities are so volatile that its so difficult to keep this in check), and watching my children play is ripping me apart because I can see the writing on the wall. They don't deserve this and I can't express my disappointment in myself and this situation.:(
I need help. I need advice.
I have my dream job, get to travel the world at my company's expense, love my children, but I hate my situation. I can pinpoint the exact moment that when my wife and I were dating that we should have broken things off, and as stupid as this sounds- I wish more than ever that I had a time machine. I can say for certain that if it weren't for our children we would not be together.
I hope to be able to get some advice from this forum. The truth is, that nether of us are happy, but I'd do whatever it takes to keep the kids in a stable family situation. Even at my own expense.
Thanks for reading.
Bryan
My name is Bryan and have been married for 9+ years, and I have three beautiful children.
The short version is that my wife and I have nothing in common, and our personalities couldn't be more different. We've grown apart over time. Since there is no common thread other than our kids, it's basically caused us to bring out the worst in each other and, so here I am; and if nothing else, I'm able to get this all out and off my chest-- so thanks for reading.
We recently moved from just outside of Washington DC to South Florida on her request so that we could be closer family, since we were all alone and isolated in Virginia with a family of 5 and nothing else. I begged my employer for an internal transfer, and after a ton of coordination and them bending over backwards to make things happen, they relocated me, and even paid the bill for the move. Career wise, this is the best company I could work at in my field and I am very very fortunate in that regard.
We are still selling our property in Va, and have moved in with my parents. It's not as bad as it sounds, and I really hope that one day I can express my gratitude to them. They have been very supportive and helpful during this transition we're in while moving.
I admit that I can be a very mean, nasty, and selfish person. I know its a problem, and I'm seeking help for it thru counseling. My wife does not work, but she stays home and takes care of the younger two, who are in a 1/2 day preschool program. She is very heavily involved with online gaming, and much of the time I feel as if she puts more of a focus on that than 'real life'. Thru this she's made many male friends which has sparked my jealousy since she's getting emotional support from them instead of from me.
We are total opposites--except that she doesn't like beer, I'm the 'girl' in the relationship. She likes football, video games, not talking about emotions. I wear my emotions on my sleeve, and I'm about to burst because of this situation.
I've been married once before and that ended after only two years, even though we were high school sweethearts. So this is the second time in my adult life that I've screwed things up and I don't know how to cope with this. I'm so disappointed with my personal life and now its falling apart in front of me.
I took today off of work so we could try to talk and all its done for me, is make me feel like a failure as a husband because I can be such an ******* to her (and our personalities are so volatile that its so difficult to keep this in check), and watching my children play is ripping me apart because I can see the writing on the wall. They don't deserve this and I can't express my disappointment in myself and this situation.:(
I need help. I need advice.
I have my dream job, get to travel the world at my company's expense, love my children, but I hate my situation. I can pinpoint the exact moment that when my wife and I were dating that we should have broken things off, and as stupid as this sounds- I wish more than ever that I had a time machine. I can say for certain that if it weren't for our children we would not be together.
I hope to be able to get some advice from this forum. The truth is, that nether of us are happy, but I'd do whatever it takes to keep the kids in a stable family situation. Even at my own expense.
Thanks for reading.
Bryan
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