Thinking that I just may have started to understand the meaning...So I have 2 issues.
#1 my boyfriend of a year. If I didn't love him, I'd probably drop him. We just don't spend enough time 2gether. He lives 2 and a half hours away in the mountains. When we are 2gether, it's great. We fuss very little, only 2 times I can really think of, but it never amounts to anything. It had to do w/ me learning how to cut hay, and learning the tractors and how they worked. It's how he makes his living, so money is involved and you have to do the job right, or you lose hay, which is loss of $$. I get it.
To be truthful, I never thought anything would go any further than a trail ride on horseback last year.It's obviously has grown to be more, much more. He's brought up marriage, which we both can see in the future, a least a couple of yrs. down the road. I told him when it gets to that point, a prenup. should be printed up. He's not rich, but he's done pretty well for himself. I think it's not just wise, but one thing less that we could fight about. He doesn't really say anything.?...He's discussed moving in 2gether, and I said I think that's a good step forward, even before getting married. I refuse to go through another divorce!, so i want us both to take our time in getting to really know each other before the "I Do's".
Thing is, during the summer, it's hay season. I'm just learning to cut so it's easier for him to call his buddies to come help him cut. There's only a small window of opportunity to get it all cut and baled so u have to be quick. I'm not. It's a new skill I'm learning. So I don't see him very much during that time.
Be for you know it, it's winter. Hunting season. He's a guide, so people will come from out of state to hunt. He of course stays at the cabin during this time so they doing go tearing it up.All in all, the season is about 6wks to two months. I don't see him during this time cuz it's just a bunch of dudes. I'd be the only female, no thanks. Hunting is one of his favorite hobbies and he gets paid at it as well.
Driving can be down right dangerous to and from his house in the winter time. He totaled his car last year as a matter of fact, and he's lived up there for 10 yrs. So I don't get to see him often then either. I miss him but he seems to be hesitating on me moving in. I get it, he's scared but then so am I. When I move, I have to give up my job of 14 yrs, change over the 401k, and do something with the stock I have w/ the company. Then I'd need to find another job, and give up my residence. I will have to start over. It's a huge leap. If I didn't believe in us, I would never even give it a thought. There's no chance of him moving down here because of the ranch. Denver would have a problem with his cattle and horses running a muck in the city I'm afraid. Lol
2nd issued. (Sigh) My sister. She's the only family I have, other than my daughter, who lives w/her dad. Anyway, I told my sister about 18 months ago that I was going to start dating. Put my profile out there on the net and see what gives. I brought it up through conversation and she was all for it. Well i met my boyfriend and after about three months I wanted her to meet him. At that point, she coped an attitude and asked me why, what was the point and that she wasn't going to drive all the way out to his ranch. Well, I told her I thought the world of this guy and was really excited for her to meet him. Told her we could have lunch sometime in Denver. She just said she'd think about it. I was like, ok. Not understanding her attitude. A couple of months later I told her that she, her husband, and both my nephews were invited to the ranch for branding the cattle. That the boys would have alot of fun, that we would all join in on the festivities. She asked me why and if they were going to get paid. I just laughed and said of course not. All the neighbors scratch each others backs to get the job done. My boyfriends neighbors run about 800 head of cattle alone. Come branding season everyone chips in and have a pot luck after...well, anyway needless to say my sis and her family didn't come. After that I just stopped bring up his name. I mean what was the point? She seems not to like the guy and she's never even met him...I know about 6/7 yrs ago, she had said something about buying land in Mexico to raise cattle. I told her then, that if that's what they wanted to do, to let me know cuz I wanted in on it. Well then, 2 years ago she said that they were going to be moving to Kentucky. There was no invite of if I wanted to go, knowing she is the only family I have. I just kind of shrugged and said ok. At that point, I knew that I need to make my own life and stop being dependent on her. So I did and met a wonderful man. I don't know what her problem i s, other than maybe she's jealous. ? I just can't understand it though cuz she has everything I've ever wanted. She has a husband that adores her, two handsome sons and a job. She's stable. I don't have any of that. She was there and watched me lose my home and family. She watched me hit rock bottom, and boy did I hit hard! I was depressed for a good two years. I've had to fight my way to the surface. It was really hard but I've made it.
So I had lunch with my sis about a month ago. She invited me, being that I stopped texting/calling her. She would never call/text me, and I started feeling as if I was bugging her. She would always rush me off the phone...So during the last 8 months when she would ask about Phil (bfriend) or my daughter, I would be vague. She doesn't like my daughter, so i know she just wanted to really know how bad she's doing. Smh
As for Phil, i was straight with her this time and said that i loved him and that I'd probably be moving out of town. Her jaw dropped to the ground. I could tell she thought i wasn't seeing him anymore, and was shocked that that was not the case. She said she needed time to "digest" the situation. What? Then she got mad at me and told me that i never talk to her. I told her of course not, cuz she acted as if she disapproved of my relationship to Phil. She was like, "I Don't even know the guy!" I was like, "precisely!"....She Been "digesting" for A month now.
Not sure what to do in either situation. Thoughts any1?
And yes, I am posting in the men's section hoping the guys could give me some hints on what is running through my boyfriend's head. Both the prenup, moving in together, marriage.
#1 my boyfriend of a year. If I didn't love him, I'd probably drop him. We just don't spend enough time 2gether. He lives 2 and a half hours away in the mountains. When we are 2gether, it's great. We fuss very little, only 2 times I can really think of, but it never amounts to anything. It had to do w/ me learning how to cut hay, and learning the tractors and how they worked. It's how he makes his living, so money is involved and you have to do the job right, or you lose hay, which is loss of $$. I get it.
To be truthful, I never thought anything would go any further than a trail ride on horseback last year.It's obviously has grown to be more, much more. He's brought up marriage, which we both can see in the future, a least a couple of yrs. down the road. I told him when it gets to that point, a prenup. should be printed up. He's not rich, but he's done pretty well for himself. I think it's not just wise, but one thing less that we could fight about. He doesn't really say anything.?...He's discussed moving in 2gether, and I said I think that's a good step forward, even before getting married. I refuse to go through another divorce!, so i want us both to take our time in getting to really know each other before the "I Do's".
Thing is, during the summer, it's hay season. I'm just learning to cut so it's easier for him to call his buddies to come help him cut. There's only a small window of opportunity to get it all cut and baled so u have to be quick. I'm not. It's a new skill I'm learning. So I don't see him very much during that time.
Be for you know it, it's winter. Hunting season. He's a guide, so people will come from out of state to hunt. He of course stays at the cabin during this time so they doing go tearing it up.All in all, the season is about 6wks to two months. I don't see him during this time cuz it's just a bunch of dudes. I'd be the only female, no thanks. Hunting is one of his favorite hobbies and he gets paid at it as well.
Driving can be down right dangerous to and from his house in the winter time. He totaled his car last year as a matter of fact, and he's lived up there for 10 yrs. So I don't get to see him often then either. I miss him but he seems to be hesitating on me moving in. I get it, he's scared but then so am I. When I move, I have to give up my job of 14 yrs, change over the 401k, and do something with the stock I have w/ the company. Then I'd need to find another job, and give up my residence. I will have to start over. It's a huge leap. If I didn't believe in us, I would never even give it a thought. There's no chance of him moving down here because of the ranch. Denver would have a problem with his cattle and horses running a muck in the city I'm afraid. Lol
2nd issued. (Sigh) My sister. She's the only family I have, other than my daughter, who lives w/her dad. Anyway, I told my sister about 18 months ago that I was going to start dating. Put my profile out there on the net and see what gives. I brought it up through conversation and she was all for it. Well i met my boyfriend and after about three months I wanted her to meet him. At that point, she coped an attitude and asked me why, what was the point and that she wasn't going to drive all the way out to his ranch. Well, I told her I thought the world of this guy and was really excited for her to meet him. Told her we could have lunch sometime in Denver. She just said she'd think about it. I was like, ok. Not understanding her attitude. A couple of months later I told her that she, her husband, and both my nephews were invited to the ranch for branding the cattle. That the boys would have alot of fun, that we would all join in on the festivities. She asked me why and if they were going to get paid. I just laughed and said of course not. All the neighbors scratch each others backs to get the job done. My boyfriends neighbors run about 800 head of cattle alone. Come branding season everyone chips in and have a pot luck after...well, anyway needless to say my sis and her family didn't come. After that I just stopped bring up his name. I mean what was the point? She seems not to like the guy and she's never even met him...I know about 6/7 yrs ago, she had said something about buying land in Mexico to raise cattle. I told her then, that if that's what they wanted to do, to let me know cuz I wanted in on it. Well then, 2 years ago she said that they were going to be moving to Kentucky. There was no invite of if I wanted to go, knowing she is the only family I have. I just kind of shrugged and said ok. At that point, I knew that I need to make my own life and stop being dependent on her. So I did and met a wonderful man. I don't know what her problem i s, other than maybe she's jealous. ? I just can't understand it though cuz she has everything I've ever wanted. She has a husband that adores her, two handsome sons and a job. She's stable. I don't have any of that. She was there and watched me lose my home and family. She watched me hit rock bottom, and boy did I hit hard! I was depressed for a good two years. I've had to fight my way to the surface. It was really hard but I've made it.
So I had lunch with my sis about a month ago. She invited me, being that I stopped texting/calling her. She would never call/text me, and I started feeling as if I was bugging her. She would always rush me off the phone...So during the last 8 months when she would ask about Phil (bfriend) or my daughter, I would be vague. She doesn't like my daughter, so i know she just wanted to really know how bad she's doing. Smh
As for Phil, i was straight with her this time and said that i loved him and that I'd probably be moving out of town. Her jaw dropped to the ground. I could tell she thought i wasn't seeing him anymore, and was shocked that that was not the case. She said she needed time to "digest" the situation. What? Then she got mad at me and told me that i never talk to her. I told her of course not, cuz she acted as if she disapproved of my relationship to Phil. She was like, "I Don't even know the guy!" I was like, "precisely!"....She Been "digesting" for A month now.
Not sure what to do in either situation. Thoughts any1?
And yes, I am posting in the men's section hoping the guys could give me some hints on what is running through my boyfriend's head. Both the prenup, moving in together, marriage.
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