It's his world and I'm just living in it

I don't feel very important to my H. It seems all he cares about are his children and his grandchild. That's his whole world and I'm just here.... like a fly on the wall observing his world. Everything is about them. I wonder if he'd even be upset if I wasn't here at all. I am constantly reminded that I am last on his priority list. This is from choices he makes not by verbal communication. I don't feel like I can really rely on him....like if I really needed something and called him I wonder if he would drop everything and come to my "rescue" or if it would "depend" on what would need to be dropped. I see things he does for his kids and think, "wow, he would never do that for me."

I understand I knew he was a father before I married him. I understand this is the man I chose to marry. It was MY choice. I understand that his kids need to come first MOST of the time. But, does that mean that I should be ok with feeling unimportant at the same time?

People will think reading this thread - she's jealous of his kids. I don't know - maybe I am. Not green with envy though. One of the things that attracted me to him was how in tune he always was with his children - what a great father he was/is. I guess I just thought I would have that kind of love from him as well. But, it's obvious that I don't make his world and probably never will. Who am I anyway? I'm just his wife.

It's tough giving 110% and not receiving it back and knowing you never will.

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