Hello all. Short background is we tried to have our first child for 7 years via IVF and that is an absolute libido killer. Finally, our first girl was born in December 2010 and she's the best thing ever. We didn't have much sex after her birth because she had terrible reflux and we never slept. Then, we tried for baby 2 with IVF and wife ended up pregnant with twins (girls) which were born in May 2013. The first year of twins is terrible as anyone with twins can tell you. Now they are a year old, but we're still tired all of the time. Sex has returned very infrequently. 1-2 times per month.
We're both tired. 3 kids is a lot of work. I get all of that. I do just as much with kids as wife. I'm 34, she's 43 so I HAVE to be hands on. She is constantly tired.
For those who have experienced a similar situation, when does the sex return? Obviously we have struggled with sex (as some of you have read from me in the past) for a long time with long-term infertility.
When we dated and were engaged, sex was frequent and fun. These days, it's still a lot of fun and can be very crazy when we actually have it. No compatibility issues at all.
So...I have been on TAM for several years and read all of the stories about women losing attraction for their men, etc. etc. I'm aware it happens, but I think this is simply a "too many young kids for sex to be important" issue.
Thoughts? Thanks in advance!
We're both tired. 3 kids is a lot of work. I get all of that. I do just as much with kids as wife. I'm 34, she's 43 so I HAVE to be hands on. She is constantly tired.
For those who have experienced a similar situation, when does the sex return? Obviously we have struggled with sex (as some of you have read from me in the past) for a long time with long-term infertility.
When we dated and were engaged, sex was frequent and fun. These days, it's still a lot of fun and can be very crazy when we actually have it. No compatibility issues at all.
So...I have been on TAM for several years and read all of the stories about women losing attraction for their men, etc. etc. I'm aware it happens, but I think this is simply a "too many young kids for sex to be important" issue.
Thoughts? Thanks in advance!
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