Hello.
My wife of 15 yrs cheated on me 3 weeks ago with her grade school boyfriend. They apparently only messaged 3 or 4 times and talked on the phone twice, before she decided she wanted to leave me and thought that cheating would officially end it all, because I'd always told her that I wouldn't put up with a cheater.
However, she claims that during their encounter she realized how much she loves me and wants to be with me. (I know... that's an odd way of showing it). And that she was repulsed by their encounter, only wanted to see if she still had feelings/ wanted closure and regrets it blah, blah blah.
We have 4 children together (3, 6, 9 & 12), so I'm perplexed by my feelings of all of this. I don't want to be with someone capable of doing such a thing, but I couldn't imagine being apart from her and seeing my children semi-regularly. She literally grabbed the kids out of school and tried to move to her sisters the day they hooked up. But came back the next day begging for forgiveness. Now she says it was a big mistake and she will do anything to 'win me back'.
The one thing I'm confused by though, is her sudden change of character. (FYI, she is originally from the Philippines.) Before, over time we became distant, never talked much, did our own thing etc. Now she is clingy, and constantly kissing and touching me. We are in hyper-bonding overdrive (thank god I read about that here... I thought I was sick in the head!) But before, I was always kind of a freak... and now she is being super-freaky whereas before she never was. Is this due to her affair? Does the affair excite her sexually, even though she says it was a horrible experience?
She claims that she was always this way but afraid to tell me, even though I was always this way before and she never said anything. She is being very open, answering anything and everything multiple times, talking with me, etc... it's just like we were when we first met, besides the sudden freak-n-the-sheets behavior. Is there anything on character changes after an affair on here? Can somebody go from an exit-affair to being fully in love again in a matter of 24hrs? Any help or advice is greatly appreciated.
My wife of 15 yrs cheated on me 3 weeks ago with her grade school boyfriend. They apparently only messaged 3 or 4 times and talked on the phone twice, before she decided she wanted to leave me and thought that cheating would officially end it all, because I'd always told her that I wouldn't put up with a cheater.
However, she claims that during their encounter she realized how much she loves me and wants to be with me. (I know... that's an odd way of showing it). And that she was repulsed by their encounter, only wanted to see if she still had feelings/ wanted closure and regrets it blah, blah blah.
We have 4 children together (3, 6, 9 & 12), so I'm perplexed by my feelings of all of this. I don't want to be with someone capable of doing such a thing, but I couldn't imagine being apart from her and seeing my children semi-regularly. She literally grabbed the kids out of school and tried to move to her sisters the day they hooked up. But came back the next day begging for forgiveness. Now she says it was a big mistake and she will do anything to 'win me back'.
The one thing I'm confused by though, is her sudden change of character. (FYI, she is originally from the Philippines.) Before, over time we became distant, never talked much, did our own thing etc. Now she is clingy, and constantly kissing and touching me. We are in hyper-bonding overdrive (thank god I read about that here... I thought I was sick in the head!) But before, I was always kind of a freak... and now she is being super-freaky whereas before she never was. Is this due to her affair? Does the affair excite her sexually, even though she says it was a horrible experience?
She claims that she was always this way but afraid to tell me, even though I was always this way before and she never said anything. She is being very open, answering anything and everything multiple times, talking with me, etc... it's just like we were when we first met, besides the sudden freak-n-the-sheets behavior. Is there anything on character changes after an affair on here? Can somebody go from an exit-affair to being fully in love again in a matter of 24hrs? Any help or advice is greatly appreciated.
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