I'm currently at Cambridge - I've hated my course this year and this, along with being diagnosed with depression has meant that I have become VERY behind with work. My tutors are contemplating whether to let me do my exams, and have said that I have to get a certain amount of work done in order to be able to sit them. Of course, as it's exam term, there is a lot of pressure.
However, I have this one friend who is extremely needy and isn't very emotionally stable. She is always in need of attention and gets upset when she doesn't receive it. She's also a bit of a drama queen and comes to talk to me about everything because she gets upset about small things such as her boyfriend not texting her back. She comes to my room every day and stays there for hours, even when I'm really busy with work or I'm just about to go out or have a shower or something - I tell her that I'm really busy but she doesn't listen and just sits in my room telling me about stuff (but if I mention something that's worrying me, she will completely ignore it and respond with something about herself) and it's getting to the point where she is taking up all of my time. I am so worried about the amount of work I have to do, and have told her repeatedly. I have really tight schedules because that's the only way I can get through all my work, but half of my day ends up being taken u p by her.
The thing is, she has had a lot of issues in the past, with depression, eating disorders, neglect etc, and she gets upset very easily. She comes to me crying about different things all the time, and so it's extremely difficult to tell her I'm too busy when she's at my door in tears.
I just don't know what to do anymore; I'm not getting any work done and I've now got two days to read eight books and write three essays. She's been to see a nurse about her problems, but she's still unloading everything on me, and making me feel bad about turning her away or not being able to talk, or not replying to her messages when she's really really upset about something, but my situation is getting pretty serious and no matter how much I try to tell her this, she doesn't seem to understand.
I honestly can't just 'ditch' her because she is so sensitive and emotional and when I really need my own time to work, she presents me with the kind of problems/worries that I can't possibly ignore (family members' deaths etc). What can I possibly do?!
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