Whew. I know I have not been on here awhile, but I saw all the comments on my original post and thought I should give an update on my condition. However, before I do that, I thought I should clarify some things:
1. When I had my penectomy, it was a radical penectomy. That means the doctor removed the entire shaft of the penis. He said this was necessary since the cancer was severe enough that without a radical penectomy, the cancer might have spread to other parts of my body. There is nothing left. I now have a hole above my testis where my urethra has been rerouted so I can urinate.
2. Some wondered about chemotherapy and how this may have affected my sex life. While I did briefly take chemotherapy, the doctor said this was mostly a precautionary measure to ensure the cancer did not spread. I went off it relatively quickly, after which my libido recovered.
3. The doctors have said penile reconstruction is impossible due to specific medical issues I would prefer not to get into here.
Anyway, I thought I would explained how I have handled my situation so far. Since I last posted, my wife and I have tried to talk to a sex therapist about how I can relieve my sexual urges. As I said before, I get aroused, but without a penis, I cannot get any release though ejaculation. The therapist suggested, since I do not have any penis left, my wife or I could massage my testicles to get an orgasm (or at least an orgasm-like experience). After trying this several times at home, I just ended up hurting myself:(, so that was out. I told the therapist my wife and I were having a lot of cunnilingus, so she said that rather than trying in vain to bring myself to orgasm, I should stick to pleasuring my wife for awhile. That what we have been doing for awhile. Then recently, I funny thing happened while I was eating out my wife and she was climaxing: I also felt like I was climaxing too :D. Given, it wasn't like what I used to do, but I still felt immense pleasure. This has ha ppened several times since. The therapist said my brain may be rewiring itself so I can feel pleasure by giving my wife pleasure. Anyway, that my story.
1. When I had my penectomy, it was a radical penectomy. That means the doctor removed the entire shaft of the penis. He said this was necessary since the cancer was severe enough that without a radical penectomy, the cancer might have spread to other parts of my body. There is nothing left. I now have a hole above my testis where my urethra has been rerouted so I can urinate.
2. Some wondered about chemotherapy and how this may have affected my sex life. While I did briefly take chemotherapy, the doctor said this was mostly a precautionary measure to ensure the cancer did not spread. I went off it relatively quickly, after which my libido recovered.
3. The doctors have said penile reconstruction is impossible due to specific medical issues I would prefer not to get into here.
Anyway, I thought I would explained how I have handled my situation so far. Since I last posted, my wife and I have tried to talk to a sex therapist about how I can relieve my sexual urges. As I said before, I get aroused, but without a penis, I cannot get any release though ejaculation. The therapist suggested, since I do not have any penis left, my wife or I could massage my testicles to get an orgasm (or at least an orgasm-like experience). After trying this several times at home, I just ended up hurting myself:(, so that was out. I told the therapist my wife and I were having a lot of cunnilingus, so she said that rather than trying in vain to bring myself to orgasm, I should stick to pleasuring my wife for awhile. That what we have been doing for awhile. Then recently, I funny thing happened while I was eating out my wife and she was climaxing: I also felt like I was climaxing too :D. Given, it wasn't like what I used to do, but I still felt immense pleasure. This has ha ppened several times since. The therapist said my brain may be rewiring itself so I can feel pleasure by giving my wife pleasure. Anyway, that my story.
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