| Hi everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. Exactly one week after celebrating our one year anniversary we broke up. I am completely heart broken, and I'm not sure what to do. Let me explain our relationship a little bit. When we first met (through a mutual friend) we fell for each other really fast. Not even one month into hanging out, we made it official. Before I met him, he was a pretty angry person. Not abusive or anything but he had a lot of things going on in his life that didnt make him happy. Such as work, family issues etc. Ayway, everything was wonderful between us. We fell in love very fast.. and began dreaming about our future together. I am 22 and he is 27 by the way. Literally every day spent with him was a blessing. Together, we made a pact saying that "It's you and me against the world" Around Christmas (5 months after meeting) my sister and I got an apartment together, knowing that we would only be living there for 9 months because my sister was getting married and moving. So at that time, my boyfriend had told me that he wanted me to move in to his moms house with him, where his mom and brother are both living. It took me awhile to warm up to this idea but eventually I fell in love with it. Saving money, and living with my best friend.. what could be any better? Anyway... a few months later my car was being worked on for a couple weeks and he let me borrow his truck. And it was a lot easier to just move some of my stuff in to his house such as clothes, and hair products etc. Instead of going back and forth to my apartment. Anway, everything seemed fine. We spent every evening together after work ( we work the same hours ) and we had no complaints. After awhile he began to be a lot more moody again... and not the boyfriend I had fallen in love with. We started fighting a lot over realllllly stupid things. And I started to become insecure and it was hard for me to accept that he wanted to hang with his friends more. Back then it hurt my feelings because I thought he was trying to escape from me. I mean, why is it that only his friends got to see him happy, and not me? The one who would do anything to see him smile. Around July during a fight of ours he told me that we rushed into things and that he never should have told me he wanted me to live at his house. Due to cultural differences, I understood. After talking with my mom, she agreed to let me move in there after the apartment lease was up. My bf had told me to get out of his house... and that he needed his space. He told me he didnt want to break up, he just needed some time to figure out what he wants. Unfortunately I was a complete mess... I had so many questions for him because I was so lost and confused. I didnt understand why he needed to be away from me, when all we ever talked about was being together? After a few days, he gave in and told me he wanted me back.. and I went back to him. We agreed to plan days apart so he could spend time with his friends, and I could do the same. Everything seemed wonderful again.. we looked forward to our one year anniversary and everything was okay. At least I thought. We went away for a mini vacation to celebrate our anniversary and we had the time of our life. Not a single worry and everything was perfect. Once we got back to town, things didnt seem right anymore... like he felt distant and we began arguing again. That next weekend he left town to spend time with his family while I threw my sister a bridal shower. He hardly talked to me, but I didnt really say much because I was busy too. That next monday (which was last week) I went over to his house like usual, and we fought about what to eat for dinner. I know money is really tight for him.. So its never an easy subject. He will never let me pay either. Anyway.. after fighting for a couple hours we decided to get fast food and bring it back. I hardly touched my food because I just knew in my gut something wasnt right. We had gone to bed, but I couldnt stop crying.. I ended up waking him up by crying so hard.. and he got so upset that he kicked me out. Two days later we met up so I could get the rest of my stuff from his house. Surprisingly he seemed calm and willing to talk to me. He told me that he needs to be alone. Because there is a lot of stuff in his life that is pissing him off. And stupid things he has done that he isnt happy about (family issues). He told me that he was still in love with me, and that he hadnt lost feelings... he just needed to be selfish and to be alone. He also told me not to wait for him... and I dont know how to take that. I am completely heart broken because he was my everything.. and at one point.. I was his everything. We just celebrated our one year anniversary.. how could this happen? I read Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus... and I now understand that men need their "cave time" which is something he never got with me. I also learned that men are like rubber bands... they can only be stretched so far until they come back. What do you think I should do? I am trying to stay busy, but he is all I think about. We live across town from each other... and its so hard just driving around because I have done everything with him. Please help me? :( | |||
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