| Hi people. We separated 11mths ago and it was my x's idea. Things had been very stressful , hurtful and rough for 4 yrs . Thing is , x met a shoulder to cry on and support which gave definitely helped her out the door and then they started seeing each other . X had him spending time over there day one although when l found out 3mths later she said they only ever spent time as friends around my d. My d was going through all this separation and was in a really bad way at the time , yet she knew mum instigated this and she knew she had a bf. Although she didn't see anything over there , she's not stupid and would've know he was the one. Strangest thing though , 1 , she didn't say a word to me in 3mths about this guy hanging round , not a word. l eventually only found out because x and l were talking via text and x's brainwave was to tell me finally and to go on to explain that d needs to be able to be open about him around when she's around me. l blew a major fuse and said l'm going full custody unless she keeps that fk the hell away from her for at least a yr even two. Not that l needed to even bother but l researched the effects and spoke to people too and gave x that info in disgust. We were together 18yrs and my d is 12 now. We decided she she mainly live with mum and x rents 10mins away now. I can see d anytime and she also stays over here w/ends and holidays. But literally living with mum they're developing more and more away from me. l just can't get that kind of time with my d , not without asking even more house hopping from my d and that's just not fair on her. Well there's that too but how the hell can l change that without messing my d up even more ? But the 2nd main thing is , the other night l'm over seeing d and x had to work but left d her phone.lt's a different phone to mine so l was checking it out and also had a snoop to see if om was still on the scene. He hasn't been near the house and my d since but l dunno if x is still seeing him on w/ends or whatever. But d kept trying to get the phone back and see what l was doing , as if she was protecting mum. l'm her dad , we're suppose to be very close , her mum was the one that blew up our family and forced all this onto us , so why the hell would she wanna guard mums business against me ? l tried to put the family back together , l have no women around d and l've been to hell and back trying to make this as easy as possible on d , yet both these times the loyalties gone to mum - why , what the hell is that ? l feel really hurt and l just don't understand it . l've also heard of kids doing the opposite to this. Trying to block new outsiders, give them and the parent that did this a real hard time, recent the hell out of them, side with the one that wanted to save the family , all sorts of stuff. Yet l get this ! | |||
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