Hello Ladies and Gents,
I am back again with another confusing episode. I have been at my Grandpas for three months working because my Aunt is basically trying to kill him..my grandfather is worth 55,000.00 dead and I think thats her motive. Anyway, because my mom is still on recovery for her knee surgery I have been spending lots of time here. I am also working for winter wages, because the wintertime is when I have the most difficulty traveling. My husband knows this and has witnessed it.
A couple of days ago my mom asked me if I would be ok leaving thursday the third and returning home saturday the 5th and I said no worries. She asked me if I would rather leave sunday and be at home for four days. So I asked my husband which was my first mistake. In the back of my mind I know how he is about changing plans, especially if he's already made plans.
Because I want honest and truthful answers I am going to post our entire text conversation that way there are no edits on my part and you see the conversation for your own eyes.
Me:
Mom wanted to know if I could leave Sunday instead of Thursday otherwise I have to leave Thursday the 3rd and be back on Saturday
Husband:
Not my decision
Me:
I'm asking your opinion though
Husband:
I'm getting mad. Your mom spends days at a time with you there but won't let you come home....... Now I have to rework my whole schedule for the third...... 5th time you have pushed it back.......hell no one else is watching grandpa their going to keep you down there in hopes of us separating I bet....... I need you so I can finish the farm loan...... And it's put off for yet another month.... What the hell one more won't hurt come home when you feel like it
Me:
Ok fine I'll be home on the 3rd
You have to understand my mom doesn't know why it's so important for me to come home... Ya Know?
Husband:
Cause this is your home...... You preach everytime you come home oh you need a break from grandpas. And now you don't want to come home...... Your mom I bet is trying to persuade you to move into grandpas by yourself. God speed have your little secret pact with mommy all over again
Me:
That is not it at all... Why are you being a jerk?
Husband:
What business is it if your moms if you want to come home it's none of her business she's butting in AGAIN
Me:
She just asked me about staying til Sunday that's all... It's no big deal I'll just come home Thursday as planned and drive back down Saturday
Me:
David what?????? You already get what you want I told you I am coming home on Thursday.. I don't have time to **** around with you anymore.. I have an assignment due and I am finishing it up.
Husband:
**** you Tammy
Me:
What???
Husband:
I get what I want!?!?!
**** around with me?!?
You asked for my direct opinion
You arrogant, immature, self obsessed, ****........
This had nothing to do with your assignment.! You don't talk to me like that
Me:
Ok
Sorry but I really don't. I have an assignment I am really trying to finish... and I said I didn't have time to **** around... much like you say sometimes... now you call me arrogant and selfish, self obsessed??? Sorry you feel like that... I am just trying to get my assignment done.. thats all...
Husband:
Sure
Me:
I thought you would be happy I hadn't been home in so long... I was trying to give you what you wanted... just like I do with everyone... I am always trying to give yawl what you want
Husband:
Bull****. You asked me cause your mom asked you.... Unless you were lying. Again guilt doesn't work on me
Tomorrow is the first and you still haven't sent me the check date
Me:
Mom asked me if I really wanted to go home thursday and drive back on saturday or if I wanted to leave sunday... so I asked you which was my first mistake... I shouldn't have even said anything I should have just sucked it up and just come home on thursday which is what I am doing now.
I will send you the check date after mom leaves
Husband:
How many days will you be home if you leave Sunday
Me:
four but it doesn't matter Im just coming on thursday and leaving saturday like we originally planned
Husband:
We didn't plan anything YOU told me the third
Me:
Can I not please you??? I am trying so ****ing hard to give you what you want... you just ass reamed me because I wasn't coming home on the third... now you are getting upset with me because I told YOU the 3rd??? Please just be happy please????
Husband:
I'm happy just come home when it's easiest ok
Me:
I'll be home on the third
Now according to my husband, I dug my "spurs" in him first and initially started this whole argument. I was working on my school paper which was due that night, I was trying to do final edits when his texts kept coming in. His responses made me really sad and depressed and when I told him they did his response was this.
Me:
I'm upset about what you texted me yesterday... It really hurt my feelings
Husband:
I wasn't being rude until you dug your Spurs into me....... It's no excuse but when we are having a civil conversation it should be civil
Me:
You should re read the texts you dug into me way before I dug into you
Husband:
You asked my opinion and I was mad..... Still am. I told you why I felt that way...... You asked
Me:
If you're still mad then why are you trying to be nice?
Husband:
Prozac
You guys tell me if I am in the wrong again... last time I just admitted being wrong... this time I don't know what to do.
I am back again with another confusing episode. I have been at my Grandpas for three months working because my Aunt is basically trying to kill him..my grandfather is worth 55,000.00 dead and I think thats her motive. Anyway, because my mom is still on recovery for her knee surgery I have been spending lots of time here. I am also working for winter wages, because the wintertime is when I have the most difficulty traveling. My husband knows this and has witnessed it.
A couple of days ago my mom asked me if I would be ok leaving thursday the third and returning home saturday the 5th and I said no worries. She asked me if I would rather leave sunday and be at home for four days. So I asked my husband which was my first mistake. In the back of my mind I know how he is about changing plans, especially if he's already made plans.
Because I want honest and truthful answers I am going to post our entire text conversation that way there are no edits on my part and you see the conversation for your own eyes.
Me:
Mom wanted to know if I could leave Sunday instead of Thursday otherwise I have to leave Thursday the 3rd and be back on Saturday
Husband:
Not my decision
Me:
I'm asking your opinion though
Husband:
I'm getting mad. Your mom spends days at a time with you there but won't let you come home....... Now I have to rework my whole schedule for the third...... 5th time you have pushed it back.......hell no one else is watching grandpa their going to keep you down there in hopes of us separating I bet....... I need you so I can finish the farm loan...... And it's put off for yet another month.... What the hell one more won't hurt come home when you feel like it
Me:
Ok fine I'll be home on the 3rd
You have to understand my mom doesn't know why it's so important for me to come home... Ya Know?
Husband:
Cause this is your home...... You preach everytime you come home oh you need a break from grandpas. And now you don't want to come home...... Your mom I bet is trying to persuade you to move into grandpas by yourself. God speed have your little secret pact with mommy all over again
Me:
That is not it at all... Why are you being a jerk?
Husband:
What business is it if your moms if you want to come home it's none of her business she's butting in AGAIN
Me:
She just asked me about staying til Sunday that's all... It's no big deal I'll just come home Thursday as planned and drive back down Saturday
Me:
David what?????? You already get what you want I told you I am coming home on Thursday.. I don't have time to **** around with you anymore.. I have an assignment due and I am finishing it up.
Husband:
**** you Tammy
Me:
What???
Husband:
I get what I want!?!?!
**** around with me?!?
You asked for my direct opinion
You arrogant, immature, self obsessed, ****........
This had nothing to do with your assignment.! You don't talk to me like that
Me:
Ok
Sorry but I really don't. I have an assignment I am really trying to finish... and I said I didn't have time to **** around... much like you say sometimes... now you call me arrogant and selfish, self obsessed??? Sorry you feel like that... I am just trying to get my assignment done.. thats all...
Husband:
Sure
Me:
I thought you would be happy I hadn't been home in so long... I was trying to give you what you wanted... just like I do with everyone... I am always trying to give yawl what you want
Husband:
Bull****. You asked me cause your mom asked you.... Unless you were lying. Again guilt doesn't work on me
Tomorrow is the first and you still haven't sent me the check date
Me:
Mom asked me if I really wanted to go home thursday and drive back on saturday or if I wanted to leave sunday... so I asked you which was my first mistake... I shouldn't have even said anything I should have just sucked it up and just come home on thursday which is what I am doing now.
I will send you the check date after mom leaves
Husband:
How many days will you be home if you leave Sunday
Me:
four but it doesn't matter Im just coming on thursday and leaving saturday like we originally planned
Husband:
We didn't plan anything YOU told me the third
Me:
Can I not please you??? I am trying so ****ing hard to give you what you want... you just ass reamed me because I wasn't coming home on the third... now you are getting upset with me because I told YOU the 3rd??? Please just be happy please????
Husband:
I'm happy just come home when it's easiest ok
Me:
I'll be home on the third
Now according to my husband, I dug my "spurs" in him first and initially started this whole argument. I was working on my school paper which was due that night, I was trying to do final edits when his texts kept coming in. His responses made me really sad and depressed and when I told him they did his response was this.
Me:
I'm upset about what you texted me yesterday... It really hurt my feelings
Husband:
I wasn't being rude until you dug your Spurs into me....... It's no excuse but when we are having a civil conversation it should be civil
Me:
You should re read the texts you dug into me way before I dug into you
Husband:
You asked my opinion and I was mad..... Still am. I told you why I felt that way...... You asked
Me:
If you're still mad then why are you trying to be nice?
Husband:
Prozac
You guys tell me if I am in the wrong again... last time I just admitted being wrong... this time I don't know what to do.
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