Hello everyone, I'm new here today and not sure where to post, so sticking to general for now.
I'm with my partner 2 1/2 years and living together for 1 year.
These are the issues why I'm posting.
I'm a 39 year old woman and no children.
We are trying to conceive since January. Both of us want children together. We only have sex approx once a week on weekends. This is because my partner does not want to have sex any more often than this.
Even on my ovulation days, I don't think he sees how important the timing is. I have tried subtle, gentle, obvious and upset approaches and now I'm not saying anything anymore.
He goes to bed very late and I'm earlier and he needs way less sleep than me, so there is a constant out of sync. He wakes up after I've left for work.
Secondly, I want sex more than once a week to feel closer to him and I get very upset when I ask him and either he says yes but nothing happens because something else distracts him or he says no. I ask him to spend just one night in the week with me but it does not happen.
Thirdly, we seem to argue a lot over little things and when we argue sometimes I get very anxious and upset and I'm at the point where I feel constantly anxious and low mood. I think the reasons for this level of anxiety in me, low self esteem in certain ways and wanting to have sex a little more often and fear of the future (not having a child etc).
Usually the arguments/anxiety are about the amount of time he spends computer gaming (which has lessened) or on the computer and not planning what we are going to do together on time or him not coming to bed/wanting to have sex/ him being too tired after late nights to have sex in the evening.
The rest of the time, we do things together, he is very affectionate and we have fun when I am not stressing. I think that we communicate quite well, when I initiate it but generally now, its me from a state of anxiety. I am trying to deal with this myself but its a daily process of up and down and gotten worse lately. I hate my mood being dependent on how connected I feel with him and constant disappointment about lack of sex for love and lack of sex for conception.
He just texted me today that his sperm count is low. I don't always hear from him in the day unless its me.
Thank You all
I'm with my partner 2 1/2 years and living together for 1 year.
These are the issues why I'm posting.
I'm a 39 year old woman and no children.
We are trying to conceive since January. Both of us want children together. We only have sex approx once a week on weekends. This is because my partner does not want to have sex any more often than this.
Even on my ovulation days, I don't think he sees how important the timing is. I have tried subtle, gentle, obvious and upset approaches and now I'm not saying anything anymore.
He goes to bed very late and I'm earlier and he needs way less sleep than me, so there is a constant out of sync. He wakes up after I've left for work.
Secondly, I want sex more than once a week to feel closer to him and I get very upset when I ask him and either he says yes but nothing happens because something else distracts him or he says no. I ask him to spend just one night in the week with me but it does not happen.
Thirdly, we seem to argue a lot over little things and when we argue sometimes I get very anxious and upset and I'm at the point where I feel constantly anxious and low mood. I think the reasons for this level of anxiety in me, low self esteem in certain ways and wanting to have sex a little more often and fear of the future (not having a child etc).
Usually the arguments/anxiety are about the amount of time he spends computer gaming (which has lessened) or on the computer and not planning what we are going to do together on time or him not coming to bed/wanting to have sex/ him being too tired after late nights to have sex in the evening.
The rest of the time, we do things together, he is very affectionate and we have fun when I am not stressing. I think that we communicate quite well, when I initiate it but generally now, its me from a state of anxiety. I am trying to deal with this myself but its a daily process of up and down and gotten worse lately. I hate my mood being dependent on how connected I feel with him and constant disappointment about lack of sex for love and lack of sex for conception.
He just texted me today that his sperm count is low. I don't always hear from him in the day unless its me.
Thank You all
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