New on here obviously. I found out my wife was sexting and emotionally cheating on me with a co-worker 3 months ago. I immediately confronted her my evidence gathered during snooping through her snapchat and our phone bill. She said at that time she would cease talking to him and I gave her the benefit of the doubt. Fast foward to 3 weeks ago and I caught her in a conversation about how she wished she had left work with him that morning and I snapped.
I told her I was leaving and packing up. Finally she came clean with everything. She has been sending and receiving nude pictures from him and talking to him about me and our marriage. I was already hurting from finding out the first time but to know she continued to lie about it knowing how badly I was hurting just drove the knife into my heart that much further. She has given me all passwords to her phone and apps and has been truthful about her whereabouts for the last 3 weeks since I threatened to leave.
She still works with the guy albeit different shifts. I have so much anger built inside of me towards the other guy. I know he doesn't owe me anything, that's its my wife who broke her vows. I've gone looking for him at her work and ran into him last night. I was overcome with emotion and felt like my blood was boiling. I began to sweat and heart beating faster than ever. My fists clinch tightly and my mind was in overdrive thinking about what I was going to say to him before I put him in the hospital. It is my sons birthday today and thinking of that is really the only reason I didn't go through with it.
How do I move past this anger? Why is my anger directed at him and not at my wife who is actually the one who broke my trust and trampled on our vows. I dream about hurting him when I sleep and I'm consumed with negative thoughts. My wife and I are talking through it and she is aware of this anger but she shuts down and starts crying whenever I tell her about it. I'm to embarrassed to talk to family and my friends would only encourage me to hurt the other guy. I feel absolutely stuck in hell right now and I don't know where to go from here. Any advice that can be offered?
I told her I was leaving and packing up. Finally she came clean with everything. She has been sending and receiving nude pictures from him and talking to him about me and our marriage. I was already hurting from finding out the first time but to know she continued to lie about it knowing how badly I was hurting just drove the knife into my heart that much further. She has given me all passwords to her phone and apps and has been truthful about her whereabouts for the last 3 weeks since I threatened to leave.
She still works with the guy albeit different shifts. I have so much anger built inside of me towards the other guy. I know he doesn't owe me anything, that's its my wife who broke her vows. I've gone looking for him at her work and ran into him last night. I was overcome with emotion and felt like my blood was boiling. I began to sweat and heart beating faster than ever. My fists clinch tightly and my mind was in overdrive thinking about what I was going to say to him before I put him in the hospital. It is my sons birthday today and thinking of that is really the only reason I didn't go through with it.
How do I move past this anger? Why is my anger directed at him and not at my wife who is actually the one who broke my trust and trampled on our vows. I dream about hurting him when I sleep and I'm consumed with negative thoughts. My wife and I are talking through it and she is aware of this anger but she shuts down and starts crying whenever I tell her about it. I'm to embarrassed to talk to family and my friends would only encourage me to hurt the other guy. I feel absolutely stuck in hell right now and I don't know where to go from here. Any advice that can be offered?
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