Problem is this… Back in october I found out my wife had met two guys from a marathon she ran. She only was talking to one of them but yet it bothered me. I confronted her and she was shaken up a bit. She told me I am glad you found out before it really became something. She never met with him besides at the race. The guy is married with kids too. I threatened him stating that I would send a letter to his home everyday for a month with a copy of the texts… I ran clear out of dodge.
After that nothing, but we never really talked much after that. Yet I could not let it go as I thought she will do it again. She is unemployed and does nothing all day besides sleep and some things around the house. I was worried she was depressed. Everytime I ask to talk I get I am tired, not in the mood, tomorrow. Always an excuse. Well one Friday few weeks back we had the greatest talk ever. Only to be interrupted by our youngest. We said pause this and the next day we will pick up. Never happened.
Now since she sleeps so much but yet can get up to run around the blocks I was like why no effort in our talks then.
Well, I strated drinking a lot, I would get angry listen to loud music and swear, yell it is over just leave, go back to your mom just bad things cause I was frustrated with no communication. Well I guess I pushed it too far as the kids heard me too. Finally last Wednesday she dropped me off at the train we were yelling on the way there. I asked lets talk tonight we will fix this. She agreed kissed me and left. I get off the train to find no one there. After 30 minutes I get a text, we left!
So I had to walk home over an hour.
So she would not answer calls or texts so I left it be. Sunday I road my bike to her mothers house and asked to talk she talked to me but she was just so angree and annoyed.
I asked if it is over for good she says I do not know, I say you love me,, I do not know. I asked are we getting a divorce 100% she says yes.
Then I leave, wait a few days and try to talk on phone. Same thing no it is over!
Now I talked to my brother in law last night and he said that him and his siter are bull headed and very stubborn plus revengeful. I said yeah I nothiced. He stated to give her some time like a week or two cause all I am doing it pushing her away more making it worse.
Question is this, our anniversary is coming up end of July I have about two weeks and a few days before it.
If I leave her alone from now till that date and show up with a gift and money to go to a nice dinner just me and her…. What are the chances she will be nice and hear me out and go?
I think two weeks of not bothering her is what I need to do for her to calm down see how things are cause the kids must be bored over at her mom's. She did not take everything of her nor the girls things so I think she is playing me.
Does that sound like a good plan? Yes I stopped drinking few days ago and feel better already. Tonight when I get home I am starting to work out few hours and clean the house spotless on hour a night. I am still thinking about AA or talking to someone about that but I know I can stop drinking did it before for a year. She would want to see proof anyways.
So am I just dealing with a very angry wife who wants to hurt me like I was doing to her?
After that nothing, but we never really talked much after that. Yet I could not let it go as I thought she will do it again. She is unemployed and does nothing all day besides sleep and some things around the house. I was worried she was depressed. Everytime I ask to talk I get I am tired, not in the mood, tomorrow. Always an excuse. Well one Friday few weeks back we had the greatest talk ever. Only to be interrupted by our youngest. We said pause this and the next day we will pick up. Never happened.
Now since she sleeps so much but yet can get up to run around the blocks I was like why no effort in our talks then.
Well, I strated drinking a lot, I would get angry listen to loud music and swear, yell it is over just leave, go back to your mom just bad things cause I was frustrated with no communication. Well I guess I pushed it too far as the kids heard me too. Finally last Wednesday she dropped me off at the train we were yelling on the way there. I asked lets talk tonight we will fix this. She agreed kissed me and left. I get off the train to find no one there. After 30 minutes I get a text, we left!
So I had to walk home over an hour.
So she would not answer calls or texts so I left it be. Sunday I road my bike to her mothers house and asked to talk she talked to me but she was just so angree and annoyed.
I asked if it is over for good she says I do not know, I say you love me,, I do not know. I asked are we getting a divorce 100% she says yes.
Then I leave, wait a few days and try to talk on phone. Same thing no it is over!
Now I talked to my brother in law last night and he said that him and his siter are bull headed and very stubborn plus revengeful. I said yeah I nothiced. He stated to give her some time like a week or two cause all I am doing it pushing her away more making it worse.
Question is this, our anniversary is coming up end of July I have about two weeks and a few days before it.
If I leave her alone from now till that date and show up with a gift and money to go to a nice dinner just me and her…. What are the chances she will be nice and hear me out and go?
I think two weeks of not bothering her is what I need to do for her to calm down see how things are cause the kids must be bored over at her mom's. She did not take everything of her nor the girls things so I think she is playing me.
Does that sound like a good plan? Yes I stopped drinking few days ago and feel better already. Tonight when I get home I am starting to work out few hours and clean the house spotless on hour a night. I am still thinking about AA or talking to someone about that but I know I can stop drinking did it before for a year. She would want to see proof anyways.
So am I just dealing with a very angry wife who wants to hurt me like I was doing to her?
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