We have been married for 33 years and have 5 grown children. Even before our last left the house I felt like we were more like roommates than a loving couple. Our sex life is poor but I don't feel that is my main problem. My wife does not touch me and I don't mean in a sexual way. I have told her that it is important to me for her to give me unexpected hugs, a stroke across back, a kiss on the neck or anything that shows affection. It just doesn't happen.
On the other hand she has told me not to kiss her neck, nibble on her ears or give a gentle squeeze to her butt she doesn't like it.
We don't fuss or fight, we just don't communicate. I suggested we see a counselor last year and we did. She agreed we had a problem but little progress was made.
On the sex side she does not seem to like any foreplay and just wants to get to it. She says she has an orgasm almost every time but I feel rushed and cheated. It has been 25 years since she has given me a BJ and 4 years since she has let me go down on her.
Our sex life at one time was wonderful but not now. We do have sex about once a week but I would like more or even more excitement in what we do.
Please don't get me wrong, she is a good woman, very attractive and in good shape. She is not a bad person, she just doesn't seem to want to show me affection. I feel that she directs most of her energy into her work by her choice I even wrote her a letter expressing my feelings and desires.
I don't want to cheat on her and I even told her that I would hate to think would happen if a woman showed me some attention. Would I be strong enough to resist? Her reply was "don't blame me if you mess up"
I need some advice.
I have tried the real nice lovely guy approach when that didn't work I tried the I don't really care approach. No affect either way
On the other hand she has told me not to kiss her neck, nibble on her ears or give a gentle squeeze to her butt she doesn't like it.
We don't fuss or fight, we just don't communicate. I suggested we see a counselor last year and we did. She agreed we had a problem but little progress was made.
On the sex side she does not seem to like any foreplay and just wants to get to it. She says she has an orgasm almost every time but I feel rushed and cheated. It has been 25 years since she has given me a BJ and 4 years since she has let me go down on her.
Our sex life at one time was wonderful but not now. We do have sex about once a week but I would like more or even more excitement in what we do.
Please don't get me wrong, she is a good woman, very attractive and in good shape. She is not a bad person, she just doesn't seem to want to show me affection. I feel that she directs most of her energy into her work by her choice I even wrote her a letter expressing my feelings and desires.
I don't want to cheat on her and I even told her that I would hate to think would happen if a woman showed me some attention. Would I be strong enough to resist? Her reply was "don't blame me if you mess up"
I need some advice.
I have tried the real nice lovely guy approach when that didn't work I tried the I don't really care approach. No affect either way
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