My wife and I have been separated for almost 18 months now, following her affair and walking out. 3 months ago I decided to proceed with a legal separation and then divorce. About 6 weeks ago she asked if we could have discussions that might be helpfull for co-parenting our two boys (3 and 6) and potentially reconciling depending on how well the discussions went.
She has stopped all contact with the OM, but is still evasive about certain aspects of their relationship. She did apologise for the affair about a year ago, but actually continued it and lied about it.
She has also admitted that since ending contact with the OM earlier this year, that she had a drunken one nighter after I told her I would be divorcing her. She has said that she wants to be completely honest with me now and focus on the issues we had in the marriage before the affair first, then we can work on the affair.
Am I wrong to have reservations about doing this?
I still feel like she has not taken responsibility for her affair, if she had she would've apologised for it and also for the lies. Should I be asking for that before we bother with these discussions?
What kinds of things should I be seeing and asking for to know that she is truly sorry and actually commited to this process?
Cheers
Brad
She has stopped all contact with the OM, but is still evasive about certain aspects of their relationship. She did apologise for the affair about a year ago, but actually continued it and lied about it.
She has also admitted that since ending contact with the OM earlier this year, that she had a drunken one nighter after I told her I would be divorcing her. She has said that she wants to be completely honest with me now and focus on the issues we had in the marriage before the affair first, then we can work on the affair.
Am I wrong to have reservations about doing this?
I still feel like she has not taken responsibility for her affair, if she had she would've apologised for it and also for the lies. Should I be asking for that before we bother with these discussions?
What kinds of things should I be seeing and asking for to know that she is truly sorry and actually commited to this process?
Cheers
Brad
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