Ok some of you know me well from before. For whatever reason I am having major issues staying logged into my other account Catch22gofigure, so I just created a new profile. Decided to come back here after over a year of separation. The tables have turned indeed. However, I am not at the point where I want to be; but have made great progress from over a year ago...well in some areas of my life. This marriage thing. I don't know. I have failed to go ahead and file, that I have many reasons for. Here is the link to my old post that and profile for those who want to catch up on where I have come from up to where we are today.
http://ift.tt/1SxtOfT
Heres the update.
I moved out. After many different waves of emotions and many tears shed... I felt it best that I do so. I silently planned after obtaining a great full time job.. to leave. He came home from work one night asking where myself and the children were and I told him that I was home. I had gotten myself a place ...took none of the marital property and started all over. I did not let him know where me I was staying and would drop off the one child still home at his moms for visits. I guess you know that the kid told him where we lived. I came home one day and he was here. And has been doing the same behaviors that he displayed back when we first separated. Hovering, never wanting to talk about us.. blah blah blah... well I have done and said all in my power shy of a restraining order to let him know that his behavior is unacceptable. For a short while he started to do as I asked. He started seeing a OW. I did not make mention of it or nothing. Allowing him to just go on even thoug h I know that In my heart I love and want my marriage. However, I did not sit back and just take it. I too found a "friend". Well once the husband found out about this he was ballistic. Doing everything in his power but talk and us work out our difference. Til this day he now is looking me over with a fine eye with what seems to be an attempt to point out my flaws. See the tables have turned. I now have a great job and a new leash on life , back in school; just a lot of great things going on ...except for this marriage.
Everyone still tells me that this man loves me and that I need to just be the bigger person and take him back. I just don't know if I should this easy. Its been a year. We have not spoken in the last four days. He came in criticizing me about something petty... in my house, and I let him know in an text that it won't be allowed. That I have told him this over and over that he does not have the role in my life any longer with us separated to dictate such things. He did not respond. Now comes by and gets the kid without coming in and I am just in limbo...yet again.
He is not on his high horse that he was though. Lost his apt two months after me moving out, got another apartment where he went in too hastily and lost that, has bill collectors calling me for him. He struggles to make his vehicle payments But ...remember those of you who have been with me the whole ride... he had it in his head that he did everything. I have no doubt that he will eventually bounce back. Its just that I feel like at this point that he sees how our situation and separation have affected everything
I don't really want the "you should give ups " and so on.. this is just a place for me to vent. Don't get me wrong , I do welcome comments and thoughts on this situation. And yes if requested I will give more details. Just trying to get this post started so that I can quick reply from my tablet and not this desktop that I hate sitting at..lol
http://ift.tt/1SxtOfT
Heres the update.
I moved out. After many different waves of emotions and many tears shed... I felt it best that I do so. I silently planned after obtaining a great full time job.. to leave. He came home from work one night asking where myself and the children were and I told him that I was home. I had gotten myself a place ...took none of the marital property and started all over. I did not let him know where me I was staying and would drop off the one child still home at his moms for visits. I guess you know that the kid told him where we lived. I came home one day and he was here. And has been doing the same behaviors that he displayed back when we first separated. Hovering, never wanting to talk about us.. blah blah blah... well I have done and said all in my power shy of a restraining order to let him know that his behavior is unacceptable. For a short while he started to do as I asked. He started seeing a OW. I did not make mention of it or nothing. Allowing him to just go on even thoug h I know that In my heart I love and want my marriage. However, I did not sit back and just take it. I too found a "friend". Well once the husband found out about this he was ballistic. Doing everything in his power but talk and us work out our difference. Til this day he now is looking me over with a fine eye with what seems to be an attempt to point out my flaws. See the tables have turned. I now have a great job and a new leash on life , back in school; just a lot of great things going on ...except for this marriage.
Everyone still tells me that this man loves me and that I need to just be the bigger person and take him back. I just don't know if I should this easy. Its been a year. We have not spoken in the last four days. He came in criticizing me about something petty... in my house, and I let him know in an text that it won't be allowed. That I have told him this over and over that he does not have the role in my life any longer with us separated to dictate such things. He did not respond. Now comes by and gets the kid without coming in and I am just in limbo...yet again.
He is not on his high horse that he was though. Lost his apt two months after me moving out, got another apartment where he went in too hastily and lost that, has bill collectors calling me for him. He struggles to make his vehicle payments But ...remember those of you who have been with me the whole ride... he had it in his head that he did everything. I have no doubt that he will eventually bounce back. Its just that I feel like at this point that he sees how our situation and separation have affected everything
I don't really want the "you should give ups " and so on.. this is just a place for me to vent. Don't get me wrong , I do welcome comments and thoughts on this situation. And yes if requested I will give more details. Just trying to get this post started so that I can quick reply from my tablet and not this desktop that I hate sitting at..lol
Put the internet to work for you.
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