When my husband and I were first dating I felt on top of the world. Before then I was always a 3rd wheel and the guys that I liked either thought I was too goody goody or had too much baggage.
Then I met my husband and we dated for a while, I never felt more loved or desired. A few years ago things hit bottom and we were very resentful towards each other. Mostly about sex and money, we're in a good place now. But I can't seem to stop being self conscious, I always think he is thinking the worse about me and not saying it. He has assured me that he isn't.
He has said things in the past that hurt me so much, for a sensitive person like me it was like someone punching me in the stomach. I know him now and there is a pretty good chance that due to stress or just arguing he was trying to hurt me because I was hurting him.
But I just feel like he doesn't like seeing me hurt or upset so he just says what will make feel better.How do I just take his word at face value? I've always been like this, it's exhausting. I just want to relax and I can't.
It isn't fair to him either, I'm all for making the person that you've hurt feel comfortable until they feel better. But he is always worried that some simple thing that he has said or a look will send me into a tailspin.
Any advice? Do any of you ladies have the same problems or issues?
Then I met my husband and we dated for a while, I never felt more loved or desired. A few years ago things hit bottom and we were very resentful towards each other. Mostly about sex and money, we're in a good place now. But I can't seem to stop being self conscious, I always think he is thinking the worse about me and not saying it. He has assured me that he isn't.
He has said things in the past that hurt me so much, for a sensitive person like me it was like someone punching me in the stomach. I know him now and there is a pretty good chance that due to stress or just arguing he was trying to hurt me because I was hurting him.
But I just feel like he doesn't like seeing me hurt or upset so he just says what will make feel better.How do I just take his word at face value? I've always been like this, it's exhausting. I just want to relax and I can't.
It isn't fair to him either, I'm all for making the person that you've hurt feel comfortable until they feel better. But he is always worried that some simple thing that he has said or a look will send me into a tailspin.
Any advice? Do any of you ladies have the same problems or issues?
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