It has been quite a long time since I last posted on TAM. That too, in the "going through divorce" section. I guess I have now graduated to "life after divorce" :)
I don't want to go in to a long winded story, but turns out, as I later learned, that my wife had become involved with a person about two years prior to S/D. What's more, he is 20 years younger than her... and a "local" of a country we were living in at the time.
I should say that we are co-parenting our kids and have a good working relationship in that regard.
Now, he is coming to live with her (and the kids, when they are with her). On one hand, I am "OK" with this meaning that I have made my peace through a lot of inner work etc. This does not mean I am happy about it, I don't like to have him "in my face" (either literately or figuratively), and would have preferred for her to move on with someone "new". At the same time, I also think/realize that everyone deserves to be happy, herself included, and this is her choice (however misguided I think it is, given the age and cultural difference) and I should be happy for her.
My main concern is how this affects the kids and in that regard I will keep close tabs to see that they are OK. I will raise issues only if/when it affect them.
I suppose I will go through various phases about this, that is natural, but given that I have known that this is in the making for a while I am not surprised.
Anyway, don't really know what the point of this post is, I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest :)
Peace to all.
I don't want to go in to a long winded story, but turns out, as I later learned, that my wife had become involved with a person about two years prior to S/D. What's more, he is 20 years younger than her... and a "local" of a country we were living in at the time.
I should say that we are co-parenting our kids and have a good working relationship in that regard.
Now, he is coming to live with her (and the kids, when they are with her). On one hand, I am "OK" with this meaning that I have made my peace through a lot of inner work etc. This does not mean I am happy about it, I don't like to have him "in my face" (either literately or figuratively), and would have preferred for her to move on with someone "new". At the same time, I also think/realize that everyone deserves to be happy, herself included, and this is her choice (however misguided I think it is, given the age and cultural difference) and I should be happy for her.
My main concern is how this affects the kids and in that regard I will keep close tabs to see that they are OK. I will raise issues only if/when it affect them.
I suppose I will go through various phases about this, that is natural, but given that I have known that this is in the making for a while I am not surprised.
Anyway, don't really know what the point of this post is, I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest :)
Peace to all.
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