I am still in love with my ex wife. And she says she still loves me. So why did we divorce you ask? Well her parents gave her an ultimatum. They don't like me because I don't think they way they do about a lot of things. They are very old school German people who are in there early 70s. Mind you, I never mistreated or abused or cheated on my wife. In fact, i believe I stayed with my wife far longer then any man would have. And not because of her. She is amazing and beautiful and smart. It was her parents. They got in the middle and pried into every aspect of our married lives. My wife was never allowed to make her own decisions without some kind of input or backlash from them. This for obvious reasons made our lives very difficult and I could not handle it. But I stayed. For 13 yrs, I stayed. Becuase I love my wife more then anything. And I vowed to myself all those years ago that I wouldn't allow her parents or any outside drama ruin our marriage. And I tried so very hard to explain for several years to my wife, that she needed to set some boundaries with her parents. We went to marriage counseling about 7 yrs ago and they told her the same thing. And she went back with her mom about 2 yrs ago or so. And they told her the same thing. " if you want your marriage to work, you have got to set some boundaries with your parents." Well I can tell you, she couldn't find the strength that time either. And because of the ultimatum they gave her which I told her I would never do no matter how bad it got. And because they have A LOT of money. She felt it was easier to divorce me then set a few boundaries with her family. The problem is that I still love her so very much and I know she loves me too. She has told me that even if we wanted to make this work, we can't do anything til her parents die. Please help, any thoughts or suggestions that could be on how to deal with this. Oh you should know that we do have two boys who are 9.
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